Are you tied to a married man? It's ok! I do not judge you. I could be in your own country. And if I was currently unmarried, I would say, "Maybe I may be."
In no way is it opening the door to "immorality", as outlined in the standards of non-marital relationship society. But I doubt that people know math in love. By removing extreme types of cases: "I'll come with this married to having ALL" or "I like to get in the middle of a couple to get the main attention", the rest of the out-of-marriage relationship lives in the classic love affair . Who has had the clear judgment in love, then he has no love.
It starts with a casual meeting. He says something that sounds different from what you heard before. Or the way you look. Or what to write in sms. You are clear at the beginning, you are clear that nothing will happen and that all is foolish. But why not turn the sms back on. The bottom line is sms, the devil got it. No one will know.
Then he "catches himself" eagerly awaiting the answer. But there is nothing. If you are still in the safe area: "That's the physical distance." Until that unavoidable and distant state begins. And the more unbearable it becomes, the stronger the temptation to strike the morals of conscience and to go to the end! At least once. Or twice. Just like for sex. But sex becomes so beautiful that she later calls "love"
In this country where everyone knows everything about everyone, or want to know, secret is a separate eroticism. It pushes you to think that you certainly belong to one another, that you have a world that no one understands except some singers who "cry" for impossible love. Romanticism that accompanies an out-of-marriage relationship is often stronger than that of a normal relationship. You are two against the world and it connects you more.
You've met "late" but belonged to each other in the past life. I feel you are saying, "Yes it is true!" And it's absolutely true! Do not worry. Nor do you feel lonely, that you are full of friends and friends involved in their secrets. Well, you can not escape! You are in a relationship with a married man. Now, if you want to continue this happy relationship, let me give you some advice.
1. Initially, you have to admit that he is married to a woman. Not with a domestic animal, or with a furniture that has been hanging over the television since 1990. In addition to an extraordinary case, it has not happened that they have dragged him to the woman's house and laid it in her bed near her. He has chosen to marry him. Even if you have been told that "He was young and unaware of marriage" he remembers a bit: "Was he in the age of Marigosa's Gender?" If not, then believe me: He knew what he was doing. He loved and married a woman and chose to create a family with her. She is his family.
2. Women's Existence There is! Also acknowledge that he sleeps with his wife. It may have happened in your relationship that you were surprised and irritated when you learned that he has become affectionate with him. Or you happen to trust him when he says, "We've been like two strangers at home" or "I've never touched her since I knew you."
If you have the minimum of intelligence (and I suspect a woman has a minimum of intelligence), you will realize that it is physically impossible. Because you know what that means? It means that he cooks himself, wash himself, lie in another room and possibly knock when he enters the kitchen. And if there are children, talk only about them: Did they eat? Will the school pay when we will do it? What did they say in dating with parents? And then get into his room. That also happens. When the couple is divorced.
But your lover is not. And I have the impression that he does not wait to finish the woman's washing machine to put on her clothes, or to divide the fridge in half, with the label on the flesh as in communism. Men generally do not. Accept that he comes home, undressed, often throws unguarded clothes on the chair, eat lunch that prepares his wife and talks about the issues of the day, share any information about the tribe or any new shopping they will do at home, play and laugh at and finally, sleep together. And if they have not passed the age of 70, they also love. Okay, so you do not get bored, I'm just saying "sex." Because love only works with you.
3 . Accept that if you wanted a kid, he could even refuse. Absolutely there are men who would be "gifted" to the love of a child, but the majority of men with a normal conscience find that it is very difficult to create parallel families, not only because they have to balance two lives that probably have no chance to "meet" at any point with each other, but also that the first children will need to be explained that love will be shared with another illegitimate child, the fruit of betrayal of their mother.
4. P Rano often, what makes with you, could have done with his wife. When she and he did not have great family responsibilities; she and he did not get tired of work and found a house with credit bills and fliers toys.
When they were like you and him. When she had free time and attention, she was dressed sensually and flirted with the role of "difficult". Admit it may have been so.
5 . To live happy with a married man, you must admit that you are on time. That he will come home. And the Sundays will be with them. Even for the holidays. Even for the party. Even the phone will raise it without a time when the wife gets it, and for you, it will have another name, another cell, and even keep it on the carriage all through the night until dawn. Accept that when his family has an emergency he will disappear from the sheets, like those spells of the circus. But if it happens that you have an emergency, lonely in your apartment, it may be impossible to help you because it is home and have finished the next justifications.
6. Accept living with a liar. Because he lies every day. I need a lie to irrigate a secret relationship. If he did not know how to lie, he would have faced time with the truth and find a solution. But, while lying, he is afraid of the solution. Well, he's a liar and coward. Let me tell you, if you absolutely believe in a honest male and man.
7. There is something that does not go in my advice, you will say. Because he loves you. He tells you he would be mad if he saw you with others. He loves you for yourself! Of course yes! Anyone would feel embarrassed if he had to share someone he wanted with others! Called EGO. He would not want you to see other people in parallel, just as he would not want his wife to share with her, to live with another man, and to raise her children with her.
Let me tell you something: The second thought is more awesome in his mind than the fact that you can have a drink at Folie and an evening to make love with Benin. The property is tangent. The goods can stay there for a long time, enough not to ruin your schedules. The property can be your spouse one day and he will continue to send you sms and meet you at the favorite hotel.
While "a foreigner" who enters into the life of a woman, who comes out on Sundays with him and his children, that kind of man is terrified in essence. "The alien" is continuity, is direct impact on "the land he has plowed." The foreigner takes the territory and sows more flowers for his children. This is the mankth he never says to you. As long as nothing happens.
8. To live happy, you must understand the second part of a quarrel that can be done for you between him and your wife. The first part is what he confesses. The third part is "I missed that night". The second part (refrain) is what he does not mention. The fact that during a quarrel he swears that it is not true (And you suddenly become inexistent). He may say to his wife: "It was just a momentous thing (And you're becoming a" sperm "Disappearance) or she admitted to having but continues:" I do not want to miss you. " (And you are the choice B).
9. To live happy with a married man, acknowledge that if he did not share his wife within the first year, the odds are that he will never share it. And not because they are "the children in the middle", "That's how the tradition loves me", "It's bad for me and I'm sick," "That woman does not have a job," but because he does not. Because he is afraid.
Because he is at all times judging himself in this relationship, but also judging you "with the eyes of the world" who accepts such an agreement. And in his perverted morale, you, the illegitimate lover, can not be a family adaptable. His bridal bed has room for only one man. While motel beds, or any "incognito" apartment, can be changed several times.
10. And Last: Think of yourself in one of those Titanic boats. There is room for only two and one option: To save one of you, you or his wife. Whom would he save? Of course you would fill you with tears and love words, it would mean that you are confident that you will go out on your own. Then it will kiss you until you disappear into the ocean.
But it would not leave orphan children anyway. Even if there were no children, history has shown that "lovers" as important in a husband's life are ultimately sacrificed. Even without his will, but with the pressure of society he would never conceive, would even call it a macabre crime if the woman did not go up to that boat. And the lover's disappearance may not have even mentioned you.
The ideal would be for him to sink himself and leave the two of them together to salvation ... Ideal for a movie script, that in reality ... the one who was afraid at the beginning will be afraid at the end.
Do not hate me to talk like that. Believe me, to understand. I do not want to be like the "Letters of the Moon" readers to brush hair virtually like those of Malena women. If you feel good and accept everything I said above, go ahead! Just do not forget one thing that has triggered the relationship from unequal positions. It is the first choice for two women, while you are the second choice for one. How good it would be to have tried to be "the only" for someone, and if you did not like it, go back to the initial position. Then he said to me, "You have gone in vain."
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