If you're wondering if it's a good idea to send an innocent "Happy Birthday!" to your ex, here's the short answer: It's not!
But the long answer is a bit more complicated. If you think sending a "Happy Birthday!" To the person you were once in love with, it seems completely harmless, you are wrong. It is synonymous with the message "please come back".
Here are some friendly tips:
1. If the relationship was such that it made you feel bad, it is better to keep your peace. Invest time in people who motivate you.
2. You've finished what you had and you've both moved on. A birthday message out of the blue gives the idea that you still think about him and want to get back together.
3. Talking to him can bring back old memories and open wounds that are healing.
4. Communicating with him can raise hopes for possible return on both sides.
These messages have nothing to do with wanting your ex to be happy, but rather to establish emotional superiority. The hidden message behind every "Happy Birthday" from an ex is: "Look how well I got through the breakup that I can wish you a "happy" day and not hold a grudge!".
A birthday text from an ex always comes with phrases like, "...and I hope you're doing well," or, "I know it's been a while since we talked, but..."
Everything would be much easier if there was only one rule set for this situation. And that rule should be: Just don't send that damn message. Don't keep your phone close to you for 24 hours if you have to, because the best birthday present you can give any ex is to leave them alone.
Note: This does not apply to my favorite ex !
Source: Cosmopolitan.
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