We all want to believe that our girlfriends are to us like salt to the sea: indispensable and always there. But what happens when something just goes wrong? When you don't know if it's a good friend or… the enemy laughing behind your back?
If you find yourself asking "Am I the problem or is it her?" - maybe it's time to do a "reality check". There are some signs that a friend may be sabotaging you, perhaps without even realizing it.
Here are some signs to look out for (if you want to avoid drama and rumours):
1. Reduce wins
Promotion at work? Did you win a prize? Have you completed an important project? She sees it and... it's not too late. Instead of celebrating with you, he extinguishes the joy with some "neither meat nor fish" comment.
Does it look normal to you? It is not.
2. Always competing with you
Did you buy a book? She bought two. Won a reward? She tells you about something "bigger" that her cousin has done.
Everything is a secret race, where she does not allow herself to lose.
3. Your secrets "don't live long"
You tell him something that should stay between you, but suddenly everyone knows. Why? Because the "friend" cannot keep her mouth shut. If you have to constantly explain things you haven't told anyone else, you know what's going on.
4. Support you only when you are bad
If you are in crisis, she is there. But if you're in a good period, it's colder than snow on the mountain. It seems like you always want to be down to make yourself feel better. Painful, but it happens.
5. Compliments that look like criticism
• "Wow, I wish I had the courage to wear something like that!"
• "How much you have changed, I don't recognize you anymore."
Comments that look like they're supporting you, but are actually slaps with silk gloves.
6. Her advice always leads to chaos.
Have you noticed that every time you follow her advice, things end badly? If her "expertise" always creates problems, maybe it's not a coincidence.
7. Slanders you in front of others
She talks badly about you, whether in the group or to others. It may be disguised as a joke, but if you feel hurt in public, take a good look at who is playing this trick.
8. Always compares you to others
When you buy a house, she mentions someone who bought a bigger one. If you make a personal achievement, they compare you with someone else who "did more". Instead of giving you the attention you deserve, it makes you feel inadequate.
9. It always lowers your self-confidence
Whether it's a bitter joke or a small negative comment, she always finds ways to make you doubt yourself.
10. Never apologizes
She never admits she's wrong. If you confront her, she'll try to make you feel guilty. This is called gaslighting - and it's a big red flag for toxic relationships.
So what should you do?
If some (or all) of these signs sound familiar, it might be time to take matters into your own hands. Sometimes, an “amicable breakup” is healthier than putting up with a “friend” who makes you feel worse than before.
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