Maybe you're dating a pathological liar?

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Only if you are not online have you avoided the famous (now) Reesa Teesa, who went viral on TikTok with a story divided into episodes where she told in detail about the former "pathological liar". She titled the "column" "Who the hell did I marry" and thus received millions of hits.

In total, the story has 50 episodes and starts in 2020, where in the midst of the Covid-19 pandemic, Reesa meets a man on a dating app. The man is nicknamed "Legion" to protect his privacy. According to Reesa, Legion told her that he had moved from California to Atlanta (where she lived) after a divorce and was working as a vice president at a company. When Reesa applied for the job, she began to doubt Legion. She discovered that the social security number he had given her did not match what was written on the marriage certificate. Digging deeper, Reesa found out everything. He was a pathological liar.

She found out that Legion didn't even live in California, that he was married more than once, his family didn't speak to him, and that he actually worked as a driver and not as a vice president. In fact, he had also involved Reesa in this big scam, saying that they had a son together.
 
Taking a cue from this viral story, we'll show you how to tell if your partner is a pathological liar. For this, Cosmopolitan has questioned several women who have revealed a specific detail about their pathological ex, so that others do not fall into the trap.
 
"He expressed his feelings to me when he was with his girlfriend. I did not pay attention to this fact. We dated for 2 years and I broke up because he cheated on me. Then he called me saying that he was sorry that his dog had died and he wanted to talk to me. But the dog was fine and nothing had happened. He always found another girl while he was tied up, and left the girlfriend he had as soon as he realized she had feelings too," says Ella, 27 years old.
 
"A guy I was dating lied to me about his achievements and participation in championships. It was strange. He lied for months that he was going out for car rides and cheating on me with his ex. He always defended himself too much when I asked questions.", Lucy, 23 years old.
 
"He used to leave me to meet his close friend. He constantly gaslighted me for my feelings and pushed me against the wall to make me out as negative. In conclusion, he betrayed me and left another girl pregnant", Miranda, 21 years old.
 
"He was telling me that I shouldn't worry about that other one. He manipulated me and hurt me. I ignored all the warning signs that I was 19 and it made me feel important," Victoria, 28.
 
"He always came home late and always had an excuse ready. He lied to me that he had an important job, while it wasn't like that at all", Jenna, 30 years old.
 
How to identify a pathological liar?
 
Speaks in general terms – Thus, avoids recalling lies in a situation where he has to repeat himself. The purpose of this behavior is not to contradict what he has said in the past.

Being overly specific with details – A pathological liar tries to convince you and through too many details, he thinks makes the story more believable.

The stories don't add up – A pathological liar does not have a perfect memory. It's just a matter of time before another variation comes up.

Constantly canceling plans – Pathological liars cancel plans because they want to have more options.

Gets heated and defends himself when asked a question – When confronted with questions, the pathological liar loses control and defends himself with more lies.