I used to think that over time I would instinctively develop the desire to do housework, or in other words, to become the mistress of the house.
I mean, do the same as some women in various cleaning videos on TikTok, where they do all the "basic" chores and finally wash and do their whole self-care routine, put 3 drops of essential oil on their pillow, and sleep peacefully.
Well… no. That feeling isn't getting to me yet.
I'm 27 years old, I live alone and yes, I have a nice house (yes, I rent it), but it still doesn't feel like my home. I don't like cleaning at all. On the contrary, I hate housework and I never do it willingly. Dishes often pile up in the sink and I look at them with hatred, good thing they don't have mouths to speak. Clothes? They sit on the neutral chair for a few days, that's what I call it, there are worn clothes that are not yet dirty enough to be washed. I hate mops!
It's not that I want to live in filth, but I do want people to understand that it's not normal to like doing everything yourself, every day, just because you're a "woman."
However, in conversations with others, I'm ashamed to say that maybe my house isn't the cleanest place in the world and it never will be.
I feel like my friends are judging me when they see a speck of dust on the table, or when they see a "bunch" of unironed clothes.
I heard everything from my mother:
"Well, okay, you're a girl, at least keep the house!"
"What will you do when you get married?"
"Aha, wait, wait, you'll find a man to do your chores!" (but why, men don't have hands?)
No, I don't want my husband to do my chores. I want equality, period.
And for now, I want people to stop treating housework like some talent that if you don't have, you're automatically "badly raised."
Who likes them? Great. Do it. Share tips, TikTok videos, and even use it as therapy. But don't make me feel guilty for not feeling euphoric when I buy new sponges, or for not releasing any happy hormones when I clean out the fridge.
And no, I'm not any less of a woman, nor any less worthy of a wife. I'm just being realistic: I'll never enjoy doing housework!
