The growth process takes time and all you have to do is respect it and live each stage. You realize that you have grown up when you find yourself indifferent to many things that previously influenced your mood and even your decisions. You can call yourself "officially an adult" if you approve the list below:
You are no longer interested in fashion and its trends
You can wear it when you want the job or the occasion, but a 5 thousand-lek blouse no longer makes you feel less good than a 60 thousand-lek blouse.
You no longer have any interest in your ex
This is more difficult, but you recovered. If you manage to break away emotionally from someone you do not have physically, you can say with full mouth that you have your feelings in hand.
The anxiety of being "as feminine as possible"
You may look very "feminine", but you do not feel the need to always be "classy, ??well-groomed and elegant".
Mistakes are no longer mistakes, but lessons
You learn to forgive yourself, but that does not mean repeating the same mistakes. Mistakes are learned, not consequences. Everything goes back to: undo-adjust-proceed.
The ironies and pins of the friends no longer affect you.
Everyone deserves to leave it in its place, and your peg-long friend does not lengthen her tongue longer than you allow. Not that you would even care if he spoke ill of you to anyone, anyway. It does not matter at all what others do or say.
They no longer suffer from adapting to others
In high school it seems to you that you have to become like them, to stay with them. Then you realize that staying with them is of no value to you, except it makes you feel that you are no longer yourself. Over time you get to know yourself better and learn to accept it without having to change for others.
You no longer have to worry about things you do not have
You can not control everything; understanding this is the key to channeling energies where you need to, to change the things you have on hand. When you are still a teenager, you tend to blame yourself for everything that happens around you. Later, you realize that there are simply some things you can do to fix them.
They no longer suffer for status
You no longer try to show that you have the most expensive bag or the latest shoes. To you status is no longer what it seems, but what it really is.
You are not interested in unhealthy relationships
Whether with a girlfriend or a boyfriend, you will no longer have to deal with anyone to tire of while you are with or without him. The people around you are the only ones who allow you to be yourself and respect your limits.
Nor what others think of you
You are clear about who you are and why it is better that way than in any other way.
You no longer care that you are single
Better alone, than with someone who is not as you would like. Growing up he knows himself well; so the other must know you and accept you, without any pretense.
Source: Cosmopolitan
