In the latest episode of the money topic on "The Dalina Show ," on Andale Media, employment and financial management expert Erald Pashaj expressed an idea that sparked debate in the comments:
"When men have money, they tend to leave their families because money creates opportunities. If you look today, almost all the rich men in the world, especially at a certain age, all have second, third wives. Money, as it gives you the freedom we seek, and these opportunities, also gives you freedom."
Pashaj also added the opinion that women who truly love their husbands are aware of the above phenomenon, and therefore do not want their husbands to make a lot of money!
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The statement was undoubtedly met with skepticism by commentators, but what do studies around the world say about the topic the expert raised?
The husband's wealth brings distance to the family!
Emotionally, many women feel that the moment their partner "steps up" professionally often coincides with a decrease in intimacy between them.
According to a study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family, men who earn higher incomes often spend less time with their families and report higher levels of work stress. This isn't necessarily due to a lack of love, but rather because of the way their focus shifts from emotional connection to personal achievement.
At the same time, a Harvard Business Review analysis shows that men who rise quickly in their careers often feel “trapped” between the need to ensure material well-being and the guilt of not being present at home. This is a dualism that many women feel but cannot articulate.
Why women don't like their husbands' excessive success
Unconsciously, some women may develop a silent resistance to their partner's extreme success. Not out of jealousy, but out of fear of emotional loss.
Scientists at the University of Chicago have proven that women married to men who spend long hours at work have less feelings of emotional support and intimacy.
Psychologists call this the “focus shift phenomenon”: when a partner invests energy in one area (career, money, status), they often “cut” energy in another area (family, feelings, relationships). And this, for many women, is when the feeling of loss arises.
In another study by the Pew Research Center, it was observed that women who earn less than their partners are often more emotionally satisfied if their partner is present and involved. So, it is not directly the amount of money, but the quality of the relationship that affects happiness.
The male ego and the "role of the producer"
Another dimension that explains this phenomenon is social pressure on men.
A study from the University of Bath showed that men who earn a lot of money often feel the role of "head of the household" as a burden: they must not fail, not show weakness. This leads to stress, isolation and a lack of emotional space.
Instead of sharing success with their partner, many men close themselves off, creating exactly the distance that the expert talked about on "The Dalina Show."
It's not money that divides, but the way it changes people.
Neither Erald Pashaj nor the studies say that money is the "enemy". But income, like any form of power, reveals who you really are. If a man, while growing professionally, loses contact with his family, with his partner, with their daily lives, then it is not money that drove him away, but the new priorities he chose.
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