The one thing mentally strong couples never do
The "language of love" is not the same for different couples, but often therapists, in order to create healthy relationships, show the ways in which a relationship that works well needs some things to be a priority, and others never to be done.
Amy Morin, a psychotherapist for couples, says the one thing mentally strong couples never do is: use their emotions as weapons. What does this toxic habit look like?
In a healthy relationship, both of you can express feelings while respecting each other. But some people use emotions to manipulate a situation or conflict, sometimes without realizing it.
Many people use emotions as weapons simply because they work. If your partner wants to give up on something, he/she can say that he/she is very worried. Or if you want your partner to stop talking, you can turn up the volume.
These strategies can be effective ways to get what you want. But these are harmful tactics. Instead, try these communication strategies:
-Consider informal house rules. Are you comfortable with them? If your girlfriend is open to a discussion, talk about your rules and if there's anything she'd like to change.
-If a conversation gets intense, take a break. Give your partner time, but don't let his/her behavior dictate yours. Separate behavior from feeling.
-There is no scientific formula to follow when it comes to making decisions in a relationship. But it's important to talk openly and honestly about your feelings. Careful! Consider all emotions when dealing with issues together.
Source: CNBC
