Having secrets is something common to people and can be caused by various factors. Reasons for keeping a secret may be related to the desire to protect oneself or others, fear of judgment, or the need to avoid consequences. Psychology Today has compiled a list of the most common types of secrets people keep.
One of the most common types of secrets is related to hurting someone else, either physically or emotionally. This can lead to feelings of guilt, shame and fear of consequences, and it is understandable why people keep such information secret.
Another common secret is drug use, alcohol abuse, and/or harmful addictions. These habits can be stigmatized in society, making individuals not to show them.
Self-harm is another category that people may be embarrassed to talk about.
Miscarriage, lifelong traumatic experiences, and lies are also secrets people can keep hidden. Other secrets on the list include romantic cravings, dissatisfaction in a relationship, emotional infidelity, physical infidelity, dissatisfaction with social life or appearance, mental health challenges, and poor performance at school or work.
Besides these, they can keep secret their sexual orientation, sexual behavior or the fact that they do not have sex.
Ambitions, plans, goals for the future, a specific history, finances, past or present relationships, and secret families are also topics that individuals may choose to keep hidden.
In general, people keep secrets for various reasons, and some of these reasons can have negative effects on mental health and relationships. While keeping secrets may be necessary in some cases, it is important to acknowledge and address the impact they may have on you and others.
To seek help, contact a mental health professional.
