I know that you exist, but that can not be said of me. You keep his last name, have a baby together, live in the same house and publicly go out both. I know his thoughts, dreams and feelings; everything in it, but nothing that belongs to the external life.
You have been married for more than 20 years, summarizing some family and public activities; the house you live in, the baby you love with all your heart. But your love for it exhausted pretty much years.
You are happy in the life you built for yourself, but is he happy in a marriage where you only fulfill responsibilities as a woman, but not as a loving woman?
Do you want it? If you wanted to, would he ask for me? Do not blame - you stopped the lover. But why do you stay in a loving marriage for the sake of the image?
I ended up today because I was tired of not having existed. He did not want to hurt his child and we constantly tried to be together without hurting him. I hurt the idea that I could destroy my life. There is no way forward. Neither; could not cope with the fact that his child could suffer - while my suffering and his own, easily affordable.
Why do not you give her the love she wants? Why do not you care about it, why not stay close to her? Create a marriage that works in-house, not just for the eyes of the world. After all, at one point you must have been happily married. How can you be happy with trivia, not with substance?
I'm not right to say anything, and I know only one side of history. But the man I know would have chosen you if you gave her a bit of love she wanted. It will solve you because it feels bound by the task, but the knowledge that is hungry for romantic love and care.
When did romance die in you and why? From what I know of your husband, he would never have left. It's not that kind of man. Even as the girlfriend of a married man, who could not come out publicly and who could not be faithful, he tried to make me feel safe with flesh and soul. Why let him go?
Written by an anonymous woman for The Guardian
