Many couples have periods during their marriage where intercourse is absent. Common or not, it's impossible to say for sure, but sex therapist Shannon Chavez tells HuffPost that if these periods are prolonged in time, then there is cause for concern...
Eight are the most common motives that lead married couples to this state!
#1 You don't talk about sex
In a relationship, communication is key, especially when it comes to more intimate matters like sex. Talking about your fantasies, desires and insecurities can be uncomfortable, but the more you open up to your partner, the easier these conversations will become over time.
#2 You have a lot of stress
When you're stressed, sex can be the last thing on your mind. Daily stress can lead to high levels of the hormone cortisol in the body, which can take away sex drive.
#3 You have mismatched libidos
It's normal for a couple's sex drive to fluctuate over the months or time in a relationship, which means you and your partner may not always have the same sex drive. But if you can talk openly about the different levels of desire and inconsistency, then only then can you find solutions to the different sexual desires.
#4 You have mental health issues
Physical health conditions can affect a person's sexual desire or ability to have sex, but they also affect mental health issues, such as depression, anxiety, sexual trauma, etc. Certain medications or problems can cause total sexual dysfunction.
#5 Criticize each other a lot
Criticizing your partner or feeling criticized by him/her is one of the biggest violations of the sexual relationship. Avoid these things at all costs and enjoy your intimate relationship.
#6 You have unrealistic expectations about sex
Sometimes sex is a wonderful bodily adventure, filled with orgasm, sometimes it is simply an act between two individuals. Expecting every sexual experience to be a success is a standard that prevents you from enjoying yourself and thus disappoints yourself more and more.
#7 You have anxiety about the performance of sex
The fear of not being able to complete the act can cause anxiety which leads to difficult and not at all satisfying sex.
#8 You are afraid to try or suggest new positions or fantasies
Sometimes in long relationships, people get into a monotony and are afraid to try new things because he/she might get bored, scared, etc. The fear of taking risks saps the energy in a sexual act.
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Source: HuffPost
