Sometimes, we don't associate a long-term relationship with passionate and amazing sex. But the reality is that many couples have found a way to keep things fresh in the bedroom, even after many years together.
So what do they do differently? Sex therapists share seven habits of couples who have a fiery sex life:
1. They allow themselves to enjoy themselves together, even when sex is not on the agenda.
Enjoying hot feelings and escalating them — using teasing when you're in public and can't do anything sexually — is a common characteristic of couples with the most passionate sex lives, says New York sex therapist Stephen Snyder.
"Sex is just the tip of the iceberg for couples with great passion," he says. "They enjoy being teased together, even when there may not be sex or orgasm in between."
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2. Every year, they become a little more "involved."
Couples with the most passionate sex lives are always willing to try something new. Whether it's using new sexual positions or experimenting with new practices, they're open to exploring, says Celeste Hirschman, a sex therapist.
"One couple we worked with said, 'Every year we get a little more 'involved,'" and that sums it up pretty well," she says. "To keep sex hot, you have to be willing to be creative and break out of your routine."
3. They take care of themselves.
Couples with a hot sex life understand that feeling safe and confident increases sexual desire. It doesn't have to be a daily workout or a muscular body; it's more about a healthy connection with your body and mind, says Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist.
"Great sex isn't just about your relationship with your partner, it's also about your relationship with yourself," she says. "You have to take care of yourself. This can include taking time for self-care, treating your body well, and letting go of feeling ashamed or guilty about having sex."
4. They laugh in and out of the bedroom.
Sex isn't always hot, provocative, or sensual. Strange things happen when two bodies collide, and the noises can get comical. Couples who have a healthy sex life know how to laugh when these awkward moments happen, says Kimberly Resnick Anderson, a sex therapist.
"Humor is a great aphrodisiac," she says. "Laugh during sex. Couples who can let go of stress and enjoy sex as a temporary escape from life are more satisfied than those who hold onto stress, anger, or resentment during sex."
5. They masturbate during sex.
Here's a "dirty" secret about sex in long-term relationships: Masturbation is more fun when you're not alone. Plus, in the process, your partner learns a great lesson about how to please you, says Shannon Chavez, a psychologist and sex therapist.
"Couples who masturbate together stay together," she says. "Showing your partner how you touch your body gives them insight into how you want to experience pleasure."
6. They explore each other's fantasies.
The best sex partners are "good, giving, and willing." This means they are skilled in bed, are giving, and are willing to try anything their partner wants—within reason.
"Long-term couples with good sex lives understand that each person has their own erotic imagination," says Hirschman. "They've learned their partner's deepest fantasies and desires and are willing to step outside their comfort zone to give their partner what they want."
7. They kiss and touch each other all day long, just to show they care.
A kiss before you leave for work, a handshake or a little massage – these everyday touches matter more than you think. When partners touch each other without expecting sex to happen, it shows they're emotionally connected, says Chavez.
"When you touch, you feel more connected and in love with each other," she says.
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