Fantasies are perfectly normal. Let’s start by saying that everyone has sexual fantasies. Yes, the entire human race has a mind that shifts in the imagination at least a few times.
Many people feel ashamed of erotic twists and thoughts, but "no matter what fantasy it is, it is completely normal!" according to certified sex trainer Gigi Engle, author of All The F * cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life.
"The more we talk about sexual fantasies and normalize the conversation, the less we will judge ourselves," she says.
Although the possibilities are endless, there are 7 main categories. After studying with more than 4,000 people, with 350 questions in 2018, internationally renowned sex educator Justin Lehmiller concluded that there are 7 main fantasy themes.
Chances are you find your fantasy following. If not, then you are more creative than others.
Sex with many partners
Why can group sex be so hot? Engle explains: “In multi-partner sexual fantasies, you are the star of the show. The idea of ??many people wanting to have sex with you is part of the excitement. ”
Power, control
Sadism and masochism (S&M), domination and subjugation (BDSM) are the second most popular fantasy. "The idea of ??being sexually submissive can excite people who are always in control outside the bedroom," says Engle.
Innovation, adventure and variety
Sex on the beach or at the top of the mountain. "The feeling of facing the unknown [and] trying something for the first time can give you an exciting adrenaline rush, and for some people, the excitement is related to that adrenaline rush," says Corrado.
Particularly in long-term relationships, keeping innovation fresh is essential to getting rid of bedroom boredom and having an active sex life, Engle says. "Trying something new revives the passion you had at the beginning of the relationship."
Jo-monogamy
Për pjesën më të madhe, fantazitë kanë të bëjnë me jo-monogaminë konsensuale. Me fjalë të tjera, një partner jep aprovimin për lidhjen jashtëmartesore të partnerit/es. Disa fantazojnë për jo-monogaminë e tyre.
Tabu dhe seksi i ndaluar
“Brenda dhe jashtë dhomës së gjumit, ne duam atë që nuk mund të kemi. Është mënyra se si funksionon truri ynë,” thotë Engle. "Çdo marrëdhënie seksuale ose akt që mund të na sjellë në telashe ose mund të shihet si e çuditshme ose e ndaluar ose e rëndë në jetën reale, mund të jetë një veprim aktiv eksitimi."
Pasion dhe romancë
Rezulton se, shëtitjet e gjata në plazh, darkat me qirinjë dhe kontakti me sy gjatë marrëdhënies seksuale nuk janë vetëm hiperbolë romantike. Të gjitha janë pjesë e fantazisë për t’u ndjerë i/e dëshiruar, për të përjetuar një moment më intim, më romantik.
Fleksibiliteti erotik
There are two main categories here:
Gender fantasies - in which one explores their gender.
Sexual fluidity fantasies - in which acts or people are inconsistent with how they are sexually identified.
Sources: Healthline, Cosmopolitan
