Maybe you and your partner fight more about money, housework, parenting patterns, etc. But it is possible that you cannot stand the high tone of his/her voice, so much so that for the smallest discussion you feel like two strangers with completely different opinions about the world and the life you lead.
Here are five signs that your arguments are completely unhealthy!
1. You blame each other
Couples are inclined to blame each other, because they see the person of their heart as the closest, and thus the demand of the account, the lack of time spent together, the commitments to the children often push them into constant arguments. You should not be "armed" with arguments, but you should resolve the conflict only with a calm conversation, without raising your voice and based on facts.
#2 Choose to be silent rather than speak
Refusing to engage in certain situations, more than an avoidance leaves a huge emotional burden on the partner. So before things escalate, face things calmly instead of ignoring them with your silence.
#3 Talk openly about every thought in your head
Perhaps, some partners feel that sharing any concerns or frustrations means that they damage the couple's relationship, which can lead to arguments, fights, etc. In fact, you should talk things out, even every element that is on your mind because transparency is what keeps a relationship healthy.
#4 Criticize constantly
Constant arguments, criticisms that are pointed out about work, schedules, clothes or anything else make the partner unwittingly the focus of the entire relationship. At a time when you have to help him correct his mistakes and not always criticize him.
#5 “Dissolve” the feeling of revenge in previous decades
It is understandable that people do not forget easily, especially when it comes to the person of the heart. But instead of going to the bedroom upset by reminding him/her of an episode from 10 years ago that feels more like revenge and nerve-racking than reminiscence or insecurity, you should actually spend some quality time together and don't get caught up in such situations.
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Source: Self
