There is a theory that says that all girls know 5 different men in their lifetime. Each one will play a unique role that marks and shapes us. These men are not always conscious choices, but are living lessons about love, ourselves, and what we want (or don't want) from life.
With one of them we can take the big step, a marriage, a cohabitation, a "forever" that doesn't last long. Other times, we leave them behind without looking back. And finally, when we pick up the pieces of ourselves, we meet the sixth, the one who arrives after others have taught us everything we needed to know.
1. The bad boy who shouldn't be in love, but we do anyway
We know him from school, the one who skipped classes, smoked cigarettes behind the gate and didn't tell anyone he wrote letters to. As adults, he becomes the charming conman, the shady "businessman", maybe even the mafia guy who shows up at night in a luxury car. We are attracted to him because he is tough, mysterious, brave. But then we realize: dark beauty has a price and we don't want to share our lives with someone who lives at the expense of others. After all, evil is never sexy for long.
2. He's very handsome, but only so-so
All the men we meet can be attractive in their own way, but one will be different, the perfect look, like the guy from the commercials. It could be the neighbor who drives the neighborhood crazy, or even the man that Vogue declares the most beautiful in the world. With him, we often don't care about the inside, it's enough for him to please our eye. But over time we realize that beauty without content is tiring. Not because he is beautiful, but because many beautiful people think they don't have to try harder. And life is not a showcase. You don't love a six-pack. You love a person.
3. Rich
One day, he appears in our lives, the man who earns more than anyone we have ever known. We don't always love him for the money, but others think so. He himself probably suspects it. This annoys us. There is no shame in wanting stability, but excessive wealth often brings arrogance. He talks a lot about himself, is rarely there, and often leaves a void that neither villas nor luxury vacations can fill. Some women marry him and enjoy it. Others run away, before they start loving the pool cleaner.
4. Hero
This is the man everyone respects, a doctor, a lawyer, a pilot, a man with a career and a reputation. He seems ideal. Educated, polite, clear. With him it seems like we can build a stable future. Maybe even get married. But then, when you feel secure, a small detail comes to light that ruins everything, his mother who orders you around, or the one who asks for a woman to wash the dishes and be quiet. Even heroes have their shadows.
5. Great love
Great love is not perfect. Nor logical. Sometimes not even healthy. It is that feeling that comes from nowhere and completely conquers you. You may not deserve it. You do not respect it enough. But you love it, unconditionally, without measure. This love is like a fire that burns you and does not let you leave. Some marry it and suffer endlessly. Others never forget it, even when they are no longer together. Great love has no form, it can be the waiter, the artist, the politician or the simple man in the neighborhood. The only thing that is certain is that it is blind. And, in many cases, destructive.
And then comes the sixth!
Behind all these men, we happen to find someone different. Not perfect, not rich, not famous, maybe not even the most beautiful. But he is the one who comes when you are clear with yourself. When you know what you don't want. When you no longer become part of the games. He is the man with whom you feel neither less nor more, but simply at peace.
Because, in the end, every woman knows what she deserves, what she wants, and what she needs. And when she's ready, she finds it.
