Regular and open communication about sexual needs, desires, preferences or boundaries is the key to a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Therefore, Colleen Marshall, expert in couple and family relationships, suggests that if you want to "sail" in the same boat of desires with your partner when it comes to the sexual aspect, here are the three conversations you should not avoid!
#1: Boundaries, in and out of the bedroom
Why is it important? The woman may want to have sex with the lights on, the partner will not. On the other hand, he wants to try new positions in bed, while she is a fanatic of the old choices. These are conversations that need to be had and respected not only in the bedroom, but also outside of it. Discussing these topics in a non-threatening, non-judgmental environment can help both partners feel more comfortable being honest about their desires and fears.
#2: Accepting fluctuations in sexual desire
Even though you know your spouse, feelings about sex and relationships can change. Perhaps, you became a mother a few months ago and of course sex is the last act that comes to your mind after all the fatigue and exhaustion during the day. Or maybe he's taking a drug that lowers his sex drive. Realizing that desire levels can vary greatly between individuals, so try to remove guilt and shame from this in order to reach a mutual understanding.
#3: Needs and wants
Sexual compatibility is an essential aspect of any romantic relationship, and it is not uncommon for couples to have disagreements or differences in their sexual desires and preferences. The essence of these conversations is intimate connection, which is built on trust and honest discussions.
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