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How to distinguish between possible signs that your child is being abused by someone

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29 Maj 2025

How to distinguish between possible signs that your child is being abused by

In the latest episode of "The Dalina Show" , Dalina Buzi and psychologist Jonarda Kërkuti discussed the importance of recognizing signs that may indicate that a child is a victim of abuse.

Early identification is essential for prompt intervention and child protection. Below, we present some common signs that can help parents, teachers, and caregivers recognize the possibility of abuse.

1. Signs of insecurity

Children who are victims of abuse often show insecurity and withdraw from activities they previously enjoyed. They may feel insecure and distrust adults. This may include a fear of the dark, nightmares, or trauma in their sleep. They may also develop fears of specific people or places, become isolated, feel sad or anxious, and tend not to talk about their experiences. 

2. Aggressive behavior 

Children who have been abused may exhibit aggressive behavior, such as excessive anger or attacks on others. This may be a way to express their feelings of fear and pain, especially when they are unable to articulate what they are experiencing. They may have difficulty expressing their feelings and avoid talking about their experiences.

3. Silence and avoidance of contact

Another possible sign of abuse is silence or avoidance of contact with others. Children may feel ashamed or afraid to talk about their experiences, causing them to withdraw from conversations and social activities. This can lead to loneliness and isolation, making them more vulnerable to outside influences.

4. Sudden changes in behavior or habits

Children who have been abused may exhibit sudden changes in behavior or habits. They may develop new intense fears of certain people and places, have changes in eating habits (refusal to eat, problems swallowing, decreased or increased appetite), or have decreased interest in friends, school, and the environment.

5. Self-destructive behavior or self-harm

In extreme cases, children may exhibit self-destructive behaviors, such as head-banging, self-harm, genital mutilation, or the use of age-inappropriate sexual language. They may seek out and initiate inappropriate sexual contact with other children, or exhibit excessive sexual behavior with others.

What can you do if you suspect someone has abused your child?

If you notice some of these signs in a child, it is important to act with care and sensitivity. Talk to the child in a safe and pressure-free environment, giving them space to express their feelings and experiences.

Do not ask direct questions that may make the child feel accused, but encourage him to speak openly and honestly. If the child tells about the abuse, it is important to believe and support him, seeking the help of specialized professionals to ensure his protection and well-being.

Full episode of "The Dalina Show":