A situationship is a romantic or intimate relationship without a clear definition — somewhere between friendship and a serious relationship. Two people are emotionally or physically connected, but they don't have set rules or clear commitments, as is the case in a true relationship.

The main characteristics of a situationship include:

Lack of open communication about feelings and expectations.
Ambiguity: it is neither a relationship nor just a friendship.
The word “partner” or “boyfriend/girlfriend” is often avoided.
Plans for the future are also avoided.
It can be temporary or prolonged, but there is usually a lot of uncertainty.

How does a situationship arise?

It usually happens in these ways:

Starting out without clear expectations – You meet, you start seeing each other often, but no one asks “What are we?”

Fear of commitment – ??One or both of you don't want a serious relationship, but you also don't want to leave each other.

Emotional/Physical Comfort – You enjoy each other's company, but you don't see them as a "long-term partner."

Moving on from another relationship – One is still emotionally attached to an ex-partner and is not ready for a new relationship.

The dangers that come from a situationship?

Emotional hurt – One person may be more connected and expect more, while the other does not have the same sensitivity.

Waste of time – If you're looking for a real relationship, a situationship can delay you from having it.

Lack of personal clarity – It can affect your self-confidence.

Signs that you are in a situationship:

Lack of definition of connection – You've never clearly talked about what you are to each other. You don't know if you can call it a "connection."

Lack of long-term plans – You don't talk about the future together (e.g., vacations, family reunions, cohabitation, etc.).

Meet irregularly or spontaneously – Meetings are unexpected and unplanned. There is no consistency or steady rhythm.

Lack of emotional engagement – ??You can have a good time, but avoid deep discussions about feelings or personal life.

Physical intimacy is at the heart of the relationship – The connection has more of a physical basis than an emotional or social one.

Avoiding emotional responsibility – If one of you is upset or needs support, the other avoids it or does not respond as expected in a healthy relationship.

Space to meet others – There is no real commitment, or at least, one of the partners does not feel "connected" to the other person.

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