In a time when relationship dynamics are constantly changing and social norms are challenged every day, an old theory has (re)gained momentum on TikTok and other social media: The “cab light” theory. Why do men decide to get married only when they feel ready? This theory, which has spread rapidly online, is being supported by many women who share their personal experiences about this phenomenon.

Men and their emotional stages

The theory goes that men, despite successful relationships or great love, are not ready for marriage until they feel emotionally and mentally secure. Just like a taxi that only starts when it's ready to pick up a passenger, men are only open to marriage when "their light is on."

This stage is often associated with financial stability, career success, and personal development. For many, it is more important to feel prepared to provide for a future for their partner and future family.

When successful relationships aren't enough...

One of the most controversial aspects of the theory is that it's not always about finding the right person. Even if a man is in a great relationship, he may not be ready for marriage simply because he doesn't feel he's reached that emotional stage.

This can be frustrating for many women, who often feel trapped in long-term relationships, waiting for a proposal that may never come, until the man feels his time has come.

Social pressure and double standards

This theory also raises questions about the norms of modern society, where the pressure for men to be prepared for every aspect of life before marriage is still strong. At the same time, women are often expected to meet different standards, where marriage is seen as a natural and expected early life goal.

These double standards have been criticized by many women on social media, who feel disappointed and tired of the expectations that society places on them, but not on their male partners.

Can this theory be changed?

Some might argue that men are simply waiting for the right time, while others might think this theory is an excuse to avoid commitment. For women who feel tired of waiting, maybe it's not always a matter of love - sometimes it's just a matter of timing.

This theory is simply a reminder that emotions and readiness for big commitments do not come at the same pace for everyone.

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