For all those who want to know where "your thing" is going and what these strange phases mean when you are in the beginning of a relationship, we have good news: you are not alone! Although every love story is different, there are certain stages that most of us go through when we "try" to find the right one. Here's a guide to help you orient yourself (or laugh at yourself).
1. The stage of "what God recognized us"
This is that wonder that happens when you meet someone for the first time and it seems like the universe has given you a gift. Whether in a bar, in the office or through a dating app, everything looks like in the movies. He said: "I love Netflix too!" You thought: "That's it, we're made for each other." Normally, without becoming like Xumi!
How to succeed: Remember that at this stage people often "oversell themselves" and don't forget to keep an eye open for any truth that may be hiding behind the perfect smile.
2. The stage of "why do you talk so much on WhatsApp?"
This is the moment when you are sending each other endless messages, going from the most profound topics to the funniest. "What do you think about UFOs?" "What about lemon juice meatballs?"
How to make it work: If the messages are turning into an endless sea of ??questions and no real meeting is happening, it's time to invite the other person for a coffee and see if the "virtual chemistry" is the same in reality.
3. The "purpose of the situation" phase: What are we?
This is when you start to catch yourself asking, "Am I just an option for him?" Dates are nice, but no one is saying the magic word: "Exclusivity."
How to succeed: If you've been waiting for a "title" for your relationship, it's time for an honest conversation (or find someone who won't let you doubt!).
4. The "now or never" phase: We define the relationship
The famous stage where you've both decided you're "the best thing that ever happened to each other." No more doubts, just hashtags like #CoupleGoals and invites to family dinners.
How to succeed: Knowing how to manage reality after the "initial magic" has worn off. Yes, now is the time to deal with his strange habits too (like the fact that he listens to music at maximum volume while bathing).
5. The "getting VERY serious" stage
This is where you start talking about topics like where you will live, if you want children, and who will do the dishes. Basically, it's the stage where you find out if you're even in sync in the big plans of life.
How to do it: Don't be afraid to talk openly about your plans, but also remember that things can change. And don't make a big deal out of it if he hasn't thought of a name for your third child yet.
6. The "let's get the lease contract ready" phase
AKA, cohabitation phase. Now the "real romance" begins: splitting the bills, cleaning the house, and discovering that he never removes the toothpaste cap.
How to do it: This phase requires patience, lots of humor and a clear plan to share responsibilities. If you get through this successfully, then maybe it's worth discussing that next big thing…
Well, we are talking about the wedding. However it goes, remember: Every stage has its own charm and everything is a lesson. At the end of the day, it's important that you feel good about yourself and the person in front of you.
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