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From Olta Boka, how to answer a child who asks you how babies are made

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3 Qershor 2023


From Olta Boka, how to answer a child who asks you how babies are made
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Invited to "Peter Pan's Trap", Olta Boka faced an embarrassing question from a little girl who asked her what she ate that a girl did and Olta, embarrassed, answered that she "ate a dessert".
Given that, how do you answer an awkward question?
First, the answer depends on the age of the children and beforehand, it's okay to "embellish" the truth a bit. According to Amanda Gummer, a child psychologist, she says: "It's more embarrassing for adults than for children. Children are more likely to seek facts, so focus on the biological process without going into too much detail. For example, you can say: "Parents love each other so much that they create a special cell that grows like a baby."
According to Jillian Amodio, founder of "Moms for Mental Health", you should be as specific as possible in the terms used, so as not to misinform the child.
"One thing I recommend is naming the body parts. This gives the child the right and clear idea that he can talk freely about his body, having more confidence in the appearance and the information received. Small children ask a lot about the body and especially about the belly, how the baby grows inside the belly and how it lives "in there", without being too interested in the sex part.
It is very important for parents to be open and answer briefly, so as not to complicate the situation.

Exactly, what do you say?

You can answer like Olta when she asks you what you eat, but with your answer, you can also give a piece of advice, such as: "I ate vegetables that are very good for you and the baby is born healthy", or "I ate a lot of soup and fruit".

In cases when the child asks you how the baby is born, you can say:

From the great love of parents

Because mom and dad really wanted to have a baby

What do you think? (Listen to the child and correct at the right moment)

What should you consider?

Give short and clear answers

Be honest

Adapt the conversation to the child's age and worldview