Have you ever noticed someone whose words get confused when he speaks to you? Or does he just not pay attention when you tell him something to do? Some people are more prone to being nervous in social situations, but others may be nervous especially when they are near you.
Attraction and anxiety
Many of us have learned in school, movies, etc. that we can feel embarrassed next to the people we like. One study found the impact of lifelong attraction, and in particular, how nervous behavior shows attraction to someone.
Susan M. Hughes et al. (2020) found that humans use observations of neural responses to assess attraction. The experts studied the neural behaviors displayed in response to interpersonal attraction, using a sample of 280 people consisting of 165 women and 115 men, aged 18 to 73, with a mean age of 29.
They measured the physiological, vocal, and behavioral responses displayed during interaction initially with a potentially attractive partner. Feelings that participants reported most often included: looking, heartbeat, increased attention, smile, laughter, redness, and difficulty concentrating. Men and women reported speaking faster but with less ability to express themselves clearly. The women reported speaking with a louder voice and an unstable tone of voice.
What is the explanation?
Hughes and other scholars cite Darwin (1872) in "The Expression of Emotions in Man and Animals":
“When lovers meet, we know that their hearts beat fast, their breathing is hasty, and their faces are red; for this love is not inactive. ”
Yet speaking of evolution, now that most people accept compatibility as part of comfort , how does nervousness feed relationships?
Anxiety and mutual feelings
Studiuesit panë se, ndërsa në skuqjen e parë, reagimet nervore mund të duken se do të prishin punë, ato në të vërtetë mund të rrisin shanset për të arritur te bashkëshorti/partneri i dëshiruar. Kjo mund të jetë veçanërisht e vërtetë duke pasur parasysh se reagimet nervore përfshijnë ndikime pozitive të tilla si buzëqeshja dhe qeshja. Studimi vuri në dukje se megjithëse mund të mendojmë se reagimet nervore krijojnë një përshtypje se jemi të ngathët apo të pakëndshëm, përgjigje të tilla mund të jenë dëshmi të interesit romantik dhe të shkaktojnë reciprocitet.
Thus, it was found that nervousness was more evident when there was a perception of mutual attraction, compared to scenarios when one participant felt that another person was attracted to them but did not reciprocate that feeling. In this way, we can evaluate potential romantic partners who demonstrate similar behaviors.
So, under your nervousness, smile, get ready for new acquaintances and realize that all this is not as bad as you think in the end.
Source: Psychology Today
