We are all a little skeptical when we hear that someone is still a friend or maintains communication with an ex-partner. However, this should not sound so strange: Two adults communicating normally and only that. However, if your partner is still talking to your ex, it is understandable that you do not like this fact so much. 

If you are in such a situation and do not feel comfortable, maybe it is time to ask yourself some questions. If you find yourself nervous every time your partner's phone vibrates, consider the following questions to ask yourself:

# 1 - Do you feel confident in the relationship you are in?

Feeling safe in your relationship is essential, but if you have not yet gotten there, a partner talking to your ex is not helping you and may feel like a "problem" for you, even if it is not. Meanwhile, Jennifer McNamara, a family therapist, says that "a person feels insecure because their intuition is telling them that something is wrong." Anxiety about your partner communicating with his ex is more likely to be a symptom of this insecurity than a cause. However, all cases differ from each other and moreover, there is a difference between healthy and unhealthy communication with an ex - You understand what is the case with your partner.

# 2 - How often does your partner talk to your ex?

The way they communicate is also important. You need to worry about an ex when your partner seems to be protecting and hiding his communication or the nature of the conversations he makes. If it is really a healthy and normal relationship with an ex, your partner would be willing to communicate with him even in your presence. The frequency of their conversations also matters. Daily messages and phone calls would certainly look suspicious.

# 3 - How does your partner react when you ask him about his ex?

Open communication with the partner is always a good idea and can be very important in this case. Observe their pattern of communication with the ex for a certain period of time, so that you have examples to present to your partner, in case of "confrontation". Next, tell him (or her) your concerns in the quietest way possible, checking to see his or her reactions.

A caring partner is likely to respond with an acknowledgment of your concerns and make an effort to work with you and set some boundaries in his or her old relationship. If your partner seems to be trying to defend himself and is ignorant of your concerns, it is likely that something is wrong. 

Source: Elite Daily