Sexual fantasies are a common part of the human experience, and according to studies, 97-98% of adults report having them. But what about the 2-3% who say they never have such fantasies? Are they telling the truth, or is there something else at play?
When the imagination doesn't work: What is aphantasia?
One of the main reasons why some people don't have sexual fantasies is a condition called aphantasia, an inability to create mental images. Those who suffer from this can't visualize scenes, sights, or situations - not just about sex, but about anything else.
This condition is relatively unknown, as the term was only coined in 2015. Aphantasia can be congenital or develop after trauma. Although research on the subject is still in its infancy, it is known that the brain activity of people with aphantasia differs significantly from that of people who can form mental images.
Fantasies that are not recognized as fantasies
Some people may have sexual thoughts but not identify them as fantasies. For example, if a person thinks about hugging or kissing, they may not consider this a fantasy because it is not "sexy enough."
Often, the idea that fantasy has to be "extraordinary" creates misunderstandings. Fantasies can be simple, sweet, wild, or impossible to realize - there is no exact formula.
Shame as an obstacle to accepting fantasies
Another factor may be shame. Some individuals do not admit their fantasies for fear of judgment. In fact, when asked about them, they may avoid answering to protect their privacy.
Sex therapists often uncover their patients' fantasies by asking different questions, such as: "What do you think about when you masturbate?" This method often reveals thoughts that people have not seen as fantasies before.
Conclusion: Fantasy is relative
If you think you don't have a sexual fantasy, maybe it's time to rethink how you define it. A fantasy doesn't have to be something extreme or unattainable. It can be any thought that makes you feel good and excited. And if you really don't have one, don't worry - you might just be part of a very small but completely normal percentage.
Sources: Psychology Today
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