In a utopian world, all birthdays are perfect and trips go exactly as you imagined. In the real world, unexpected things happen and affect your birthdays, holidays and mood. When such events happen, it seems to you that your entire experience has been destroyed and your wholeness is completely destroyed.
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According to author Sarah Wilson, this is called "perfect moment syndrome." This is also supported by Sarafina Arthur-Williams, mental health expert, who says that when they have a special day, people raise their expectations too much.
She takes the example of a romantic trip with the person of her heart and says: "You predict a perfect weather, beautiful, intimate moments, without quarrels. But then, it rains, you're locked in your room, and what's more, the hotel isn't what you expected. Instead of laughing or finding a positive aspect, your high expectations lead to a deep sense of disappointment."
Also, Kamran Eshtehardi, psychologist, says that: "The reason why 'perfect moment syndrome' leads to negative feelings, injuries, or worries is because maybe you don't foresee an unexpected event, but things can't go perfectly all the time."
People on TikTok have endorsed this syndrome and claimed to have it. One person commented: “I'm so glad we're talking about this. I always have such hopes and end up disappointed".
Someone said bluntly: "I've never heard it before and it sounds very familiar to me!".
So, if you have it, you are not the only one. It is actually such a common experience.
