Losing a follower - even if it's just one person or you didn't know them well - can irritate us all day long. "Follow / Unfollow" seems like a futile move, but think about it when The Weekend removed Selena Gomez from Instagram, or when Kylie started following Jordyn Woods, after the Kardashian family betrayal drama.
James, 27, says he hates losing a follower. He admits he checks who followed him or who is picking him up 50 to 100 times a day, every time he picks up his phone. When his number drops, it puts him in a bad mood.
Why can we be upset when someone "removes" us from Instagram
From a psychological point of view, we can say that feelings are hurt by the idea of ??rejection. Instagram has a weird way of making us connected after someone.
The fact that people continue to "unfollow back", that is, someone takes you away and you do the same thing, only adds drama. In real life, losing contact with people occurs naturally and often gradually until the two parties no longer communicate. On Instagram it happens drastically with just one click, which makes it seem like a "deliberate action" even though basically the two cases do not differ and so much.
Why people like to know who follows them and who "unfollows" them
It seems like a form of "psychological torture", but many people want to know when these actions occur in real time. Rachel, 24, says she started an investigation when she saw that some high school friends had "done it back". She dived into their pages to see if the profile was "aesthetically pleasing", what was going on with their lives and so on.
Some social network users prefer to know who is removing them from Instagram (or another social network), for the simplest reason, revenge, which in this case is "unfollow". Rachel says she "doesn't have to hold on to her profile for even a second more, someone who prefers not to see her."
Meanwhile, Sarah, 28, has a more drastic reaction:
"Sometimes I cry. I end up deleting some of my posts because I feel like my online actions made certain people stop following me."
Those who do not mind this work
Some people hardly notice it when they lose a follower. They do not care. Ashley, 31, says she doesn't take it personally and that Instagram is not life: Often people forget that. However, she says that "if she was too close to that person, she would feel a little sorry".
If losing followers makes you feel bad, experts suggest not using short-term programs that see who is following you and who is not, and not constantly checking your list of followers. Dolores, 31, says:
"Gone are the days when I posted what I thought people would like. Now I post what I like and care about. Eventually, people with my mindset joined me. Today I continue happy work in my business!"
Source: Bustle
