During an improvisation as a game in "Big Brother VIP Albania", one of the contestants, Kristi Aliaj, turned to the other resident, Mikela Pupa, asking her not to touch him.
"You don't need to touch me," he said in a tone that indicated he was annoyed by the touch, but he was polite nonetheless, accompanying his request with a "Please."
We don't know if Kristi is one of those people who hates touching always or in certain situations (because in "Love Story" she didn't seem very against touching/kissing), however, we will stop on this topic in the following.
Some things in life are hard to understand and as a result, no one really talks about them. Touch aversion is one of these and is often misunderstood by those who experience it and not alone. Sufferers may feel confused and ashamed and not understand why they don't want to be touched.
There is no simple answer to this topic, but basically touch aversion is a dislike, or in some cases a fear. The severity of the symptoms can range from dislike to total disgust. There is even a phobia name for this condition when it is extreme, hapephobia.
Like almost any other condition, the reasons for not liking touch can be personal and different from one individual to another:
1. Sensory processing problems: A condition where the brain has problems dealing with incoming and outgoing information. As a result, sensitivities to the environment and actions occurring around them may occur.
2. Autism Spectrum Disorders: Those diagnosed with autism or Asperger's may have sensory processing issues and this includes touch.
3. Mental health problems: Aversion to touch can be a symptom of a mental health problem. For example, someone who has OCD may not want to be touched because they are afraid of germs or dirt. Those with social anxiety disorder have trouble relating to others and may find contact very unpleasant psychologically.
4. Shtatzënia dhe ushqyerja me gji: Fluksi i hormoneve mund të ndryshojë mënyrën se si truri merret me informacionin, duke nisur ose një episod jetëshkurtër të neverisë ndaj prekjes, ose një që zgjat më shumë.
5. Problemet e marrëdhënieve: Nëse marrëdhënia juaj nuk po shkon mirë, mund të keni shqetësim kur ai/ajo ju prek.
6. Dhimbjet kronike: Kushdo që vuan nga probleme kronike të dhimbjeve fizike, është në një rrezik më të lartë për të përjetuar neveri ndaj prekjes. Kjo ndodh për shkak se truri po bën gjithçka që mundet për të mbrojtur personin që të mos ndjejë më shumë dhimbje sesa po përjeton.
7. Trauma/abuzimi i mëparshëm: Mund të ndodhë për shkak të çrregullimit të stresit post-traumatik.
8. Thjesht nuk ndihen komod kur dikush i prek.
PS If someone asks you not to touch them, respect and do not take their request lightly; as you read above, the reasons can be different.
