Words may not be able to cause physical pain, but they can easily affect our psychology and make us feel bad for a long time. The saying of people that “the tongue has no bones, but it breaks bones” is absolutely true.
When it comes to our interpersonal relationships, and especially romantic ones, there are many things we may have said out of anger that have hurt our partner. The same may have happened the other way around.
What are the most common phrases that destroy relationships according to experts?
"You always..." or "You never..."
For example, "You never listen when I talk" or "I always have to remind you to do something." What our partner hears is criticism. In this way, the partner feels like you don't appreciate anything he does and then reacts by getting defensive. Experts say that you should express your complaints in a less harsh way, which will make it possible to discuss and address your dissatisfaction.
"Why aren't you like him or her?"
Avoid comparisons. Even if you think this way helps your partner improve, it's not. You create a wound that's very difficult to heal, experts say, by making them think they're not good enough for you.
"You should probably..."
Most people react when others tell them what to do. According to most mental health counselors, “Make sure you have found the right way to express yourself before offering your advice to your partner. Over time, this tactic can make your partner feel less confident or like you don’t value their potential.”
"Okay. Okay"
It may seem like a simple and unimportant word, but it's a phrase that can give the impression that you're not interested in a conversation enough to engage in it. It has a negative connotation and can make the other person feel "left out."
