You're not paranoid, these 6 behaviors of *that* friend are really red flags

Friendship is one of the most beautiful things we have in life – when it works. When it doesn't? Welcome to Netflix's newest drama titled "Why the hell am I still friends with this person?!".

There are some behaviors that we have normalized so much that we pass them off as "that's just how this person is," but they are actually the most alarming and red flags in a social relationship. If you see yourself or any of the "girls" in the points below, we're not telling you to leave the WhatsApp group, but maybe it's time for a little analysis.

1. He only receives the message "Heyyy, how are you?" when he needs a favor from you.

If she only calls you when her car breaks down, when her laptop won't turn on, or when she needs an appointment at the beautician - hello, you're a call center, not a friend.

Society is two-way. Yes, life gets busy, but a message like the one above without any hidden interest isn't too much to ask for. And when you never get it, maybe the answer is that she doesn't want you in her life, she wants you for what's convenient for her.

2. "Let's leave this conversation because I don't like dramas"

He never says "I'm sorry", but offers you silence with a smile after a blunder that hurt you? This is not maturity, it's emotional avoidance.

Friends who avoid awkward conversations and push them away with a "let's not drag this out" are usually the ones who cause the drama. 

3. He's on Instagram 24/7, but "didn't see your message"

It's one thing to be busy and another to not want to communicate. And when someone doesn't see your message but comments elsewhere, you're not wrong to feel bad. You're just aware that you're being overlooked – and that's not normal in a friendship.

4. "I was just kidding"

If you tell her "I don't feel good when you do that" and she responds with "you're too sensitive" or "that's how we have humor," it's not normal. It's disrespectful.

You're not being dramatic just because you know what's bothering you. And yes, it's not your job to educate someone who doesn't know how to behave like a normal person.

5. When he's with you, he's a version. When others come, he doesn't recognize you anymore.

You know when they talk differently, dress differently, and act differently when they're with you, but become a completely different person when you're in a group? And you feel like you're invisible at the table?

When he excludes you from plans, groups, or activities "unintentionally," if it happens often - he did it on purpose.

6. He sees life as a competition with you.

"How good you did this... I'll start the same thing next month."

At first it seems like support. Then you notice that everything you do, she does a little harder, faster, more beautifully. And one day you wake up and feel like you're competing for a medal you never asked for. It's consuming.

_{Source: Your Tango}