Bora Zemani still believes in forgiveness (even when it's hard)

Photo: Bora Zemani, Donald Veshaj/ Top Channel

During an interview on "Grida Duma Podcast" on Top Channel, Bora Zemani spoke a little more about her life, career, and some of the virtues she thinks she has, one of which was forgiveness.

As she expressed, she likes to forgive, but this decision comes after she has thought carefully about the person in front of her, properly weighing every good and bad that has accompanied her during the relationship with him.

"I forgive, to be honest. I like to forgive. That is, I look for the reason to forgive. I try to understand a person, a situation, I try to understand why it made me feel bad in the first place. What was behind that? And then I make the decision to forgive or not."

Although during the interview Bora did not focus on her relationship with Donald specifically, like any relationship, she has gone through quite a few ups and downs, and one of them (at least what we witnessed) was the relationship he created with Beatrix Ramosaj on Big Brother.

The romance between them received even more attention, as it came shortly after the meeting that he and Bora had inside the house. We understood that there were problems between them, but they let us understand that things would be resolved later. Everything took a different direction. Inside Big that year, one of the couples created was Donald and Beatrix, but the romance between them ended with the end of the show.

A little later we learned that Bora, despite everything, chose to forgive Donald and all attention was back on them. For all those who judged this action, she probably has an answer, as she explains how and why she chooses to give some relationships (especially the one with Donald) a second chance.

"Of course, I don't forgive naively, I don't forgive because I'm being lied to, I forgive with full conscience. I know where it went wrong, but I will forgive it, I will overcome this thing and I don't do it by expanding the boundaries with it. No, the boundaries remain the same. I forgive you for this, but my boundaries here are still there and I don't forget that thing."

After being asked by Grida if it's worth dealing with the same person again (we're always talking in general), Bora said that everything depends on the person in front of him/her and how willing he/she is to not make the same mistake again.

"Sometimes I don't know how to say, but you can definitely forgive once. If it's the same mistake that happens all the time, of course there can't be forgiveness all the time. Yes, depending on the person you're in front of. I always say it, I see relationships a bit like a scale. If I have someone in front of me who has done three, four, five good things and then did something wrong, I don't reject them. I try, my scale still tilts towards the good things, of course this bad thing moves a little, but the good still outweighs the good in this relationship. I don't want to destroy the relationship."

Without naming names, opening wounds, or dwelling on details, Bora made it clear that for her, forgiveness is an act of maturity. A way to stop being held hostage by the past and to move forward, whether with the same person or simply for a little peace within herself.