Looks and smells may influence our first impression of someone, but they are not what determine whether we will fall in love. According to one study, 80% of participants said that intelligence was a "significant" or "very important" factor when choosing a romantic partner. In fact, 89% said they would want to be in a relationship with someone who is significantly more educated or intelligent than themselves.
But why is intelligence so attractive to us, in both men and women? Because it often comes with other very attractive qualities, such as a sense of humor, creativity, social skills, problem-solving and, from another perspective, the potential for higher income.
However, beyond intelligence, other factors influence the development of a relationship, such as time.
"If you're not ready for a relationship, you won't even notice the smartest person in the room, even if they're sitting right next to you," says anthropologist Helen Fisher.
Fisher also points out that it is not true that "opposites attract", on the contrary, she argues that:
"We tend to fall in love with people who share with us the same level of socioeconomic status, appearance, religious and social values, as well as similar goals for the future."
"Romantic Chemistry": What Really Attracts Us?
According to Fisher, the selection of a romantic partner is also influenced by four neurochemical systems: dopamine, serotonin, testosterone, and estrogen.
Dopamine : People with high dopamine levels are adventurous, creative, spontaneous, and very active and tend to be attracted to each other.
Serotonin : Couples with this trait are more reserved, organized, and traditional. They follow rules, respect authority, and have a structured lifestyle.
Testosterone vs. Estrogen: Here, it seems that opposites really do attract. People with high levels of testosterone, prone to logical thinking, analysis, determination, and directness, tend to match with those with more estrogen: people with high sensitivity, empathy, imagination, and good communication skills.
So, if you're looking for "the one," don't just focus on looks or initial chemistry. Intelligence, both emotional and intellectual, remains one of the most powerful factors that connect us deeply and long-term with someone. And the brain, it seems, is one of the most attractive "organs" of modern love.
