Do you remember your first kiss? Was it romantic or super awkward? What about your last one? Has the way you experience kissing changed?
Although it seems natural, kissing is a skill that can be improved. According to psychotherapists, many people overlook the importance of kissing, especially when moving into other stages of intimacy - but in fact, kissing is essential for connection, passion, and pleasure.
The frequency of kissing is closely related to the emotional connection in a couple. With that in mind, here are 8 steps to improve your kissing style, according to experts:
1. Don't rush – take your time.
The best kisses are calm and sensitive. People who feel insecure often rush, but it's important to stay present and feel the moment.
2. Use the *right* amount of passion
Many people make the mistake of being either too aggressive or too gentle. The kiss should be balanced - not too rough, but not too soft either. You can practice on the soft part of the hand to get the feel.
3. Use language wisely
Initially, focus only on the lips. The tongue is added later and should be used gently, like a light caress, not like a “snake tongue.” You can practice again on your hand to understand the force you are using.
4. Close your eyes.
Eye contact can be nice at certain times, but most of the time, closing your eyes helps you focus on the sensation and experience the moment.
5. Involve the whole body
Kiss your partner, but use your hands too - caress their hair, cheeks, shoulders. You can hug them, caress them, or kiss their neck and ears to make the experience richer.
6. Play a little between kisses
Pull back a little to make it more intriguing. Movements like stroking the lower lip with a finger or a flirtatious smile accompanied by eye contact are playful ways to maintain erotic tension.
7. Adapt techniques to the person
Everyone has a different style. Observe your partner's reactions and adapt. If they like something, keep going - if not, change your approach. Kissing is like a dance, where you both need to be in sync.
8. Don't judge yourself.
Even if you feel unsure, try to let go of your thoughts and live in the moment. If you feel uncomfortable, talk openly with your partner. Communication builds trust and helps the kiss feel more natural.
Additional tips:
Communication is key.
Express what you like and encourage your partner when they do something well. Gentle suggestions during the kiss are an effective way to direct without breaking the spell.
It's not just for the lips.
Experts suggest exploring other sensitive parts of the body such as the neck, ears, forehead, cheeks, jawline, collarbones, chest, abdomen, waist, thighs, and more. These add intensity and variation.
Don't forget about lip care.
For a good kiss, lips need to be soft, moisturized, and cared for. At the end of the day, kissing is an intimate experience that involves sensitivity, communication, and being in the moment. And there's always room for improvement!
