We spend a lot of time choosing the right words - whether it's for an Instagram message, a work email, or the least desperate way to ask for the WiFi password at a bar. But while words matter, body language can speak louder than we think and can sometimes betray us without us even realizing it.
We can unintentionally cross our arms or play with our shirt sleeves, sending the wrong message. These actions are unconscious, but they can create the wrong impression. If you want to avoid awkward moments and misunderstandings, here are some of the most common body language mistakes.
Body language as a form of communication
Communication doesn't just happen with words. Everything from facial expressions to tone of voice and the energy we bring to an environment has an impact. About 80% of communication is nonverbal. We may say one thing, but our body language may say something completely different. For example, if we say "I've had a weird day" with our arms crossed, the message will be understood differently than someone who says it with a big smile on their face.
7 Common Body Language Mistakes
Of course, we don't have to change every detail of our behavior, because body language is a natural part of our communication. However, sometimes certain actions can be misinterpreted and create awkward situations.
1. Crossing of arms or legs
Many people cross their arms when they feel comfortable or simply because they are more relaxed in that position. But it is often seen as a gesture that indicates boredom, impatience, or defensiveness.
If you're doing this because you're just being cold, you can clarify it with a small comment so it doesn't seem like you're distancing yourself from the conversation.
2. Constant movements and signs of nervousness
Playing with your hair, tapping your fingers on the table, or frequent foot movements are often done unconsciously, but they can give the impression that you are anxious or upset.
However, for many people, these movements are a way to feel calmer and more focused. Therefore, it is important not to jump to conclusions when we see them in others.
3. Avoiding eye contact or using electronic devices
Lack of eye contact can give the impression of lack of interest or anxiety. Also, looking at your phone during a conversation, even if it has become a common habit, can give the impression that you are not involved in the conversation.
4. Resting the head on the hands
Resting your head on your palm or chin may seem like a normal and comfortable posture. In a casual setting this is not a problem, but in professional situations it can be interpreted as boredom or lack of interest.
5. Bad posture and hunched postures
Standing hunched or slumped in your chair can give the impression of insecurity or lack of interest. A more upright and open stance gives the impression of confidence and attentiveness. A small change in posture can make a big difference in how others perceive you.
6. Forced and unnatural movements
Trying to control every movement of your body can make you look tense and unoriginal. Instead of showing confidence, you can look like you're overthinking everything you're doing. It's better to stay natural and relaxed.
7. Serious or cold facial expression
This doesn’t mean you have to smile 24/7, but a very serious expression can come across as cold or unfriendly. A small smile and open eyes can make a conversation more pleasant and show that you’re paying attention. Of course, some people have what’s called a “naturally serious face” and can’t completely change that. But if you want to appear more approachable, a little effort to relax your facial expression can help.
Body language is an essential part of communication and often speaks louder than words. You don't need to change every single thing you do, but by being a little more aware of some of these signs, you can avoid some awkward situations and send the right messages.
Sources: Verywell Mind
