The “Goats” from Andale Media have shared some stories that their followers have experienced with their mothers. Many of them are painful stories, showing that the mother figure is not always supportive and warm. Here are some stories that reflect disappointment, lack of support and the feeling of being misunderstood.
#1 When your secret becomes everyone's topic of conversation
“Every time I share something personal with my mom, I find out from others that she told them. And when I ask her why she did it, she says, ‘Wow, I didn’t think she would spread the word!’ Total disappointment. Now I don’t tell her anything about myself anymore.”
#2 A kind word that never came
"I hate the fact that I've never heard him say to me, 'Strength, you can do it! You're a lady, you're smart, and you can make your dreams come true.' Maybe he was afraid we'd turn our backs on him if we became too successful. But to us, doesn't that mean anything?"
#3 When instead of protecting yourself, you get in the way too
"I hate it when she tells me to talk less or not say things that upset my dad. I wish she had more courage to stand up for herself. Not only does she not do it, but she also prevents me from standing up for her. I wish she hadn't married my dad, and if that meant I didn't exist, I would still accept it."
#4 When a mother's love comes with conditions
"He always put me down and, when I barely got engaged, he said: 'Thank goodness he hung you!' Meanwhile, I was 20, he was 34. I forgave him, that's all he knew, that's all he said. Fortunately, now I'm free and independent."
These stories are heartbreaking, but unfortunately not uncommon. Sometimes, our relationships with our parents can leave scars that last a lifetime. And if you find yourself in stories like these, know that you are not alone and that, above all, you have the power to build a better life for yourself.
If you find yourself in stories like these, know that you are not alone and that, above all, you have the power to build a better life for yourself. It is important to set healthy boundaries in your relationship with your mother, seek emotional support from trusted people, and if necessary, get professional help. It is not easy to break free from painful patterns of the past, but by working on yourself, you can create a future where you feel valued and supported.
