Sorry, but no. And if you're here reading this article, we know you will anyway.
If there's one thing we can be honest about, it's this: Don't text your ex! Not now, not tomorrow, not when the series you're watching gets boring. Especially not on Valentine's Day, which is the most absurd day to contact someone you should theoretically have left behind.
Let's be honest: A birthday message might sound like, "Wow, I just remembered that today is your birthday. I just wanted to say hi!" - even though we all know it's not just "hi." But a Valentine's Day message can't be hidden behind any excuse. Whatever you write, the real message is: "I'm in an emotional crisis and I miss you terribly!"
But you know what? It doesn't matter what I say. If you're going to write them, you're going to write them. And I'm just here to help you face the harsh reality before you regret this decision. So before you send that controversial message, let's ask ourselves a few questions:
1. When was the last time you made this mistake?
Open the conversation and see: Have you made this move before? And what happened? Were you blocked? Were you ignored? Were you given a short reply? Don't let history repeat itself.
2. What if you wait until his/her birthday?
If you have an urgent need to send a meaningless message, at least choose a less dramatic day. A birthday message can be a more credible “just checking to see if you’re still alive” than a message on February 14th.
3. Why are you doing this?
No, seriously. Why? Because you miss him? Because you need attention? Because you're drunk and lonely? If you can't even answer that question yourself without letting out a long sigh, then it's probably not a good idea.
4. What if you just open a dating app?
If all you need is a little attention or someone to tell you, “How beautiful you are!” or “How interesting you are!”, sign up for an account on an app. At least you’ll get a “like” and not a bitter rejection from someone who has decided not to be a part of your life anymore.
5. Do I need to unlock it to write to it?
If you blocked this person, you did it for a reason. And if you've made it this far, think about it: If you have to unblock someone to send them a message, it's probably better if that message doesn't exist at all.
6. What if you are blocked yourself?
Stop and ask yourself: Is there any chance that he/she has blocked you? Because if he/she has, this message won't change anything. The only thing that will happen is that you'll sit in your room complaining loudly: "Why did he/she block me?!?"
7. Have you saved the number with a warning name?
If your ex's number is saved in your phone as "Do Not Call," "Emotional Disaster," or "Don't Embarrass Yourself Again," you've given yourself the answer. If you've written that warning once, you probably did it for a valid reason.
8. Have you been through this story before?
If this situation sounds familiar, it's probably because you've already done it once. Or twice. Or three. Don't torture yourself and the people who love you by repeating the same drama. There will always be someone else who sends you funny memes and can bring you chips when you're in a bad mood.
In conclusion: Don't write them! But if you're going to do it anyway, at least don't say we didn't warn you!
