In an ideal world, intimate relationships happen out of mutual attraction. But the reality is a little more complex. Sometimes, people engage in intimate acts not because they truly want to, but out of regret, guilt, or even simply because they don't know how to say "no."
In the "code red" section, the question was asked: Have you ever had sex for mercy? Several stories show that Albanians have found themselves in situations where they said "yes," even though every part of them wanted to say "no."
Some of the followers' stories
#1
"I had a friend who was suffering from cancer and one of his biggest fears was that he would die without ever experiencing what it was like to have sex. It started out as a pity party, but it didn't end well, to be honest."
#2
“He had come from overseas just for me. I tried to look like I was enjoying it, but my voice betrayed me. After we finished, he asked me: ‘How many times have you had an orgasm?’ ‘Zero, you slave, zero!’”
#3
"He loved me very much and I had just broken up with my boyfriend. I only admitted it once, maybe because I felt sorry - he understood that we would never be together (he was ugly). I didn't even look him in the eye during the act and I believe he understood. We never spoke again."
#4
"I'm the type who doesn't know how to say 'no' to avoid upsetting the other person... I got carried away with a girl and she blew my mind with messages. When we went out, it was totally out of my league, but I did it with my eyes closed."
#5
"I was in a relationship that had long since ended, but I didn't have the strength to end it. The relationship was boring and I felt like I was doing it just to keep the balance between us, not because I wanted to. It was like I was signing a contract that I didn't want to renew."
#6
"I'm pregnant and my husband is just asking me to. I'm doing it out of pity at this point, because I haven't had much fun. After a while, it will become a duty."
#7
"I once went out with a guy who had been in love with me for months. I had no feelings for him, but I felt bad when I saw how excited he was when he saw me. After all, I thought, what do I have to lose? I regretted it later."
#8
"A girl I'd been friends with for years told me she'd always had a crush on me. I didn't want to hurt her, so we did it... but it was more of an awkward experience than something that gave me pleasure."
#9
"A guy who had been harassing me for 3 years, but we didn't write or hang out, wrote to me out of the blue. I knew he had a crush on me, we started talking and went out regularly for a month. We did it three times, with the idea that next time it would be better, but he would finish in 2 minutes and then he wouldn't get it up anymore. We disappeared from each other."
#10
"Late one night, an ex (not my favorite) wrote to me crying, desperate that I had forgotten him. It was so emotional that I didn't know how to reject him. I didn't want to take him back, but I didn't want to see someone crying for me either. It was over and I just felt heavy."
Apparently, feelings of guilt or fear of ending up disappointing someone else often put us in situations where we accept something we don't really want. How would you have acted?