Nothing gives you more "butterflies in the stomach" than the first stage of getting to know someone. You know exactly what we're talking about: that period when you can't wait for the person you've dated a few times and have incredible chemistry with to text you back. Evening calls are the best moments of the day and you are counting the hours until you meet again. But, more than a fun phase, this is an important period for getting to know each other deeply. The relationship is still new and you are both trying to present the best version of yourself, to decide if you want to move on to a more serious stage. Therefore, it is important that your messages are not just about the weather or the day at work, but contain questions that help you learn more about each other, without feeling like you are doing a job interview. Here are some ideas:
If you're texting someone you met on a dating app:
1. How would you describe yourself in 3 words?
2. What was the best part of your day today?
3. What is your strangest talent?
4. If you were an emoji, which emoji would you be?
5. What was the first concert you went to?
6. Who is your favorite character from a movie, series or book?
7. If you could have dinner with one person (living or dead), who would it be?
8. What are the most beautiful vacations you have taken?
9. What is your favorite holiday?
10. If you were an animal, what would you like to be?
If you're texting someone you're casually meeting:
1. Do you have a life motto? What is it?
2. What is your horoscope sign?
3. Are you more introverted or extroverted?
4. What is something you hate?
5. What role do you play in your group of friends?
6. If your life was a movie, which moment would you like to watch endlessly?
7. What would you do if you won the lottery?
8. When was the last time you cried from laughing?
9. What would your perfect day look like?
10. What is the most interesting thing you have read, seen or heard recently?
If you're writing to someone who has potential for a serious relationship:
1. Are you better at speaking or listening?
2. What is the best thing that comes with age? What about the worst?
3. Who is your role model in life and why?
4. What do other people think wrongly about you?
5. How often do you visit your family? How do you feel when you do this?
6. What is something that makes you feel nervous?
7. What is your love language?
8. Did you have a pet when you were little?
9. What is something that has made you feel proud lately?
10. How do you define happiness for yourself?
If you're texting with your partner and the relationship is still new:
1. What was our best date so far?
2. What was the best and worst moment of your day? What about the week?
3. Is there a hobby you'd like to try but haven't yet?
4. Do you have a favorite family member? Why is he the most favorite?
5. What is your best holiday memory?
6. What was your most embarrassing moment?
7. How would your friends describe you in 3 words?
8. What would your ideal vacation look like?
9. If you could do any job without worrying about money, what would you do?
10. Do you have a self-care routine? how is she
If you're texting your long-term partner and want to talk more deeply:
1. Which song reminds you of me?
2. What has been your most beautiful moment in our relationship so far?
3. Is there something about sex that you've wanted to try but haven't yet?
4. Have you read a book/watched a show/listened to a podcast that taught you an important lesson?
5. How has our relationship affected your dreams and plans for the future?
6. What is your biggest personal life achievement so far?
7. Tell me a time when you surprised yourself for good.
8. How do you make yourself feel better when you're in a bad mood?
9. If you could travel in time, what period of your life would you like to go to?
10. If you could see your future, would you want to?
Note: Remember that you no longer need to talk about the weather or stress at work. With these questions, your conversations will flow naturally and be much more interesting!
