When a relationship ends, especially when children are involved, the situation can become chaotic and difficult for everyone involved. The recent case between Fero and Arbenita Ismajli is a clear example of how a separation can escalate into a public war, involving followers on social networks and most importantly, the child in the middle of this vortex.
Fero has expressed concerns about his daughter, stating that she is being misused by foreigners. Meanwhile, Arbenita (for the time being) has chosen to remain more reserved in public, showing that open conflict does not help either side. But what can be done to avoid such a situation and protect the emotional well-being of all involved?
One of the main lessons from similar situations is the importance of setting clear boundaries, not only for ex-partners, but also for the public. Breakups can turn into dramatic scenes if boundaries are not respected. Discussions about personal and family matters should remain private, away from the prying eyes of social networks. Therefore, one should not pay attention to the statements of one party on social networks. This not only protects children, but also avoids the spread of information that can be misused by others.
Focus on children
Children often become "victims" of difficult separations. When parents involve children in their conflicts, they carry the emotional burden of adults. It is important that both parties maintain a prudent attitude and not involve the child in their disputes. Instead of public accusations, there should be a focus on the welfare of the child and creating an environment as stable as possible for them.
Manipulation and toxicity management
In complicated divorce cases, one partner can often use manipulative tactics to gain support or damage the image of the other. These situations require self-control and resilience. You can't control your ex's behavior, but you can control your reaction. Focus on the facts, avoid dramatization and try to maintain a neutral tone. Do not allow provocations to draw you into an open conflict.
Self care
Breakups are emotionally and physically draining. Therefore, it is essential to take care of yourself during this difficult period. Practice self-care by keeping a consistent daily routine, engaging in activities that bring you pleasure, and being around supportive people. If you feel emotionally overwhelmed, don't hesitate to seek professional help.
Documenting everything
If the conflict escalates to court, keeping records of communications, messages and other details can be crucial. This is not done to build a "case" against the ex-partner, but to protect yourself and ensure that the truth is not distorted.
Protecting children from conflict
Avoid negative talk about your ex in front of the children, maintain their routine and make sure they feel heard and supported.
After all, divorce doesn't have to be a public battle. The situation of Fero and Arbenita reminds us of the importance of prudence, boundaries and focusing on what matters most: the well-being of the children and our own emotional health.
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