If you are a kind person, with a calm and open nature, you probably often become a victim of manipulation without realizing it. This does not mean that you should stop being caring and kind, but you should know how to protect yourself from people who can take advantage of you, intentionally or not.
Manipulation is often difficult to identify because it can look like normal human behavior. However, it is important to recognize the signs that someone is trying to influence you dishonestly. When someone gets what they want through manipulation, they tend to repeat the behavior.
Here's how you can spot manipulation:
- You feel powerless, guilty or forced to act against your will.
- They blame you for their problems.
- They give gifts for no reason and then expect something in return.
- They push you to make quick decisions.
- They create drama and put you in the center.
- They accuse you of being a "bad" person or of having done something wrong.
- Aggressive behavior or disrespect.
- They do not accept "no" for an answer.
- They try to bring you down by confronting you with your weaknesses.
- Ignore you or give the "silence treatment" (they don't talk for an indefinite period of time).
7 smart ways to protect yourself from manipulation
1. Take time to answer
Don't answer right away. Give yourself time to think, even if they push you for a quick answer.
2. Ask about their goals
A good way to detect manipulation is by asking questions to clarify their intentions. This often embarrasses manipulators and forces them to back off.
3. Show lack of interest
Manipulators feed off of emotional reactions. If you seem oblivious and unconcerned, they lose interest.
4. Set boundaries
Learn to say "no" calmly and firmly. If necessary, repeat "no" without hesitation until it is accepted.
5. Maintain your dignity
Don't apologize when they blame you for their problems. Remember that everyone must take responsibility for themselves.
6. Don't react emotionally
When the manipulator tries to embarrass you, keep calm and remain neutral in your emotions.
7. Don't get caught up in their drama
If someone tries to get you into a dramatic situation, distance yourself. It is your right to leave without explanation.
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