Perhaps, you are a parent of one or two children, but you still want to add to the family and are thinking about another new member. According to Nan Wise, certified couples and family therapist, there seem to be some important questions to ask yourself before taking the plunge for your next pregnancy.
#1 Why do you want to have another child?
It seems like a critical question to ask yourself, but in fact family planning should exist in every couple. Financial security, home, partner's expectations, all are details that need to be analyzed.
#2 How does your partner feel about another child?
This probably goes without saying, but if you bring up the idea of ??having another child with your partner, then you need to have important preparatory conversations that are indicative of your approach to family expansion.
#3 Why do you (and your partner/s) want to have another child now?
Timing is everything, which is why the expert suggests asking yourself and your partner this question before moving forward with any baby plans.
#4 How do you cope with resolving conflicts and stress as a couple?
Arguments or disagreements in a couple are normal and inevitable, but the way you as a couple find to solve them is a clear indicator for many situations, especially after the idea of ??adding a family.
#5 How will another child affect your life?
Do you remember what a big change it was in your life when your first child was born? Take some time and think, another child, crying, sleepless nights, dealing with other older children, housework, how much security is threatened in your current job, etc.
#6 Do you have enough attention to give to the other child?
Let's talk about age gaps and parenting stamina, as you need to consider your energy level. But expert Wise emphasizes the importance of attention and adaptation to each child, something that's obviously difficult to provide when you're torn in two different directions trying to meet the needs of a newborn and an infant. .
#7 Do you have the physical and emotional stamina for this?
The most direct question you can ask yourself is exactly this: how much energy do you have to handle even a newborn at home, while you have one or more older children who want your attention and commitment as parents.
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