6 arguments about which adult children argue most often with their parents

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It is no wonder that parents and children get "caught up" from time to time, despite the strong or strained relationship. Debates between them are different and above all about topics from the most common to the most personal decisions.

But according to family therapist Brianne Billups Hughes who spoke to HuffPost, among the many arguments among them there are six that stand out as the most typical.

#1 Childhood traumas

It can be difficult for parents to face their past mistakes and admit that these actions have negatively affected their child over time. Parents often want recognition for the many sacrifices they have made for their children and struggle to listen to what the children have to say, out of guilt, denial, or the belief that these problems should be left in the past. But, the therapist says that it is good that despite the pain or sadness that these conversations cause, they should really be discussed.

#2 Setting boundaries

Setting boundaries with parents can be difficult for grown children. It requires persistence, but also a patient approach, always if there is a desire to maintain the relationship. Respecting these boundaries can be a challenging approach for parents who do not understand or agree, but often boundaries are necessary.

#3 Criticism of parenting

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When grown children create their own married life, together with children, conflict often arises with parents about how they choose to raise or educate them. Parents may criticize or question the parenting decisions of their adult children, leading to strained relationships. In general, the best practice is for parents to respect their children's parenting decisions, even if they disagree.

#4 Lack of support for life partner

If parents don't approve of the person their adult child chooses to spend their life with, it can cause relationship breakdown. Choosing a life partner happens for many reasons, above all the aspect of feelings and heart. Therefore, if the parents are too critical in their judgment or worse, the humiliation of the person with whom their child has chosen to spend his life, then the relationship will continue to be even more divided.

#5 Judging the decision to have or not to have children

It is becoming increasingly common for adults to be single and/or childless by choice, for many reasons. There are people who place a lot of value on freedom and independence and do not want to channel their energy and life into raising children, but rather into commitment to the relationship as a couple. But these decisions often challenge parents' belief systems and their social norms. If a parent tries to pressure you to get married or have children, you can try to respond in your own way that is right.

#6 Discussing career

Debates about career can be related to the child's lack of a job, instability in a job, etc. Most people do not have a linear career because it depends on many factors from education to job performance. The parent's job is to be supportive and encouraging in terms of work and not judgmental.

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