Heidi was the next guest on "Wake Up" and besides clarifying the relationship with Bora Zeman, she also spoke about the fact that various residents have accused her of "calculating" her relationship with Romeo. Heidi said that she has never denied that she is cold-blooded and that she is calculating, but she emphasized that she does it for her own good, because at the end of the day, self-love is not selfishness at all.
"If I were outside myself, I would have thought about it too. I received the attention with the greatest calmness. I am rational and cold. I have these characteristics, I have never denied them. I did not think much in the case of Romeo because in such a format I did not want to be tied. It is not wrong to put both together, and logic and love. There's nothing wrong with doing some math for yourself. Life is not simple, it is hard. There are many situations that are toxic relationships. You need to think and know the other, you need to have the power to make a point. You have to love yourself. I love myself and this is not selfishness", said the model.
In fact, to many people, loving yourself and holding yourself to a certain standard can seem selfish or presumptuous. However it sounds, for people who are excluded from your standards, it is a self-centered act to put only you at the center of everything. To be honest, in your life and in your reality, you should be the center of everything!
We as a people are taught to love and respect others. We love adults, don't talk back to them and when they cross the boundaries with both feet; talk to neighbors even when they don't know how to stop with questions about private life; to talk to relatives because 'blood does not become water' and many other things. Balkan culture is itself a big community, which is taught from childhood to love and respect each other. It is true, we are human beings, inclined to live in a community, but in a community where everyone's limits and values ??are respected.
Self-love is perhaps the first and most important step in how we present ourselves to the world and how we expect others to treat us. practically, we must love ourselves enough to build healthy and strong relationships based on important foundations of love, respect, and the desire to thrive together.
I will not write at length about self-love, but about the opposite: What happens when one does not love oneself?
What we all fear happens: You attract unhealthy relationships because when you don't love yourself, you allow and tolerate things you wouldn't normally allow.
You seek validation and confirmation from others, even though under other conditions, their opinion would probably not have the point of importance.
Blame yourself when people leave your life.
You don't forgive yourself for the mistakes you may have made, forgetting that we all make mistakes and fail.
You don't have a good relationship with yourself and in many cases, you don't feel like a beautiful person and you tend to shrink.
To be clear: Self-love is much more complicated than appearing confident. It's like a cake with many layers, in which you always discover something new. But, it doesn't mean that you sit on a throne and everyone else just can't reach your level (at this point we go into egocentrism). To love yourself is to know it, to have the standards you set, to understand that your mind, heart and soul are inexhaustible resources, which only you can fill or only you can exhaust.
