Ask anyone who is single and they will have an answer: The dating world is becoming increasingly dynamic and difficult. But therapist Elinor Greenberg has a theory that says it works if you're looking for a new partner. It's otherwise called the "sofa theory" and at the core of this theory is the fact that you should approach finding someone the same way you do when buying a new sofa.
Here are the five basic rules for this theory to work:
#1 To find a sofa, you go to places where sofas are sold
If you don't have a couch and currently sit on the floor, do you expect the house to find you a couch? Actually, no! You should act similarly when you are looking for a new relationship. You don't wait for the sofa to come and find you, but go to the stores where they are sold. This means that even in order to find a new partner, you should visit places where you can meet the ideal person, such as a bar, restaurant, pub, etc.
#2 If you still haven't found the sofa you like, you go to other stores until you find the model you like
If at first you have no success in couch shopping and dating, try again. Just because you don't immediately meet someone you want to start a relationship with doesn't mean you have to stop looking. If you want to be with someone, keep looking until you find them.
#3 Don't worry if you seem depressed
When you walk into a sofa store, you're unlikely to feel bad that you don't already have a sofa. Why should you feel ashamed to admit that you don't have a spouse? Don't let the fear or embarrassment of rejection stop you from being in a relationship.
#4 Choose the right people to ask
According to therapist Greenberg, you probably don't go to stores where you can't afford the prices. Just like in a romance, you have to be realistic about who you consider dating.
#5 Play to your strengths
A tip for singles: Look for partners who fit your lifestyle! Don't frequent places where you know you will find a partner who likes nightlife or fancy restaurants, at a time these choices are not your way of life. A mutual friendship, a cousin's acquaintance, a colleague, all can be the right alternatives to find the person of life.
Suggested Articles:
Source: Pure Wow
