In a relationship between two lovers, advice comes from all sides! You listen to words from friends or relatives, read on the Internet, books, listen to podcasts to understand what really counts among all this "noise" of advice and what should be ignored.
Of course, every relationship is different, and some rules that work for one couple may not work for another. But relationship-oriented therapists say there are seven rules to follow if you want your relationship to work.
There is no shortage of relationship advice out there. You hear it from friends and relatives, strangers on the Internet, books, podcasts and TV shows. Sometimes there's so much noise that it's hard to tell which advice is worth following and which might be better ignored.
#1 Make meaningful gestures for your partner
No matter what stage of the relationship you are in, give signals that you are making an effort and are interested in the person you love. This can mean gestures like putting a cute note in your work bag, asking each other interesting questions to get to know each other better, or planning activities together.
#2 Stop comparing your relationship to others
Comparison is a natural human tendency. It's normal to wonder from time to time how your relationship compares to others you know. However, spending too much time comparing can be detrimental to your happiness and well-being.
#3 Don't avoid uncomfortable situations
According to therapist Kurt Smith, one of the main reasons couples go to therapy are issues they ignore. Avoiding situations that are not very normal, annoying conversations that seem like small things, but tomorrow they turn into big things and likely a potential "threat" to your relationship.
#4 Express gratitude every day
Seeing the ways your partner enriches your life, from taking care of you when you're not feeling well, or filling up your car with gas, are gestures that speak volumes. A thank you is never too much.
#5 Be transparent with your partner
Being honest and clear about your needs and wants is essential to happiness and relationship in a couple. If you are open about any situation in your relationship, you build trust and intimacy as a couple.
#6 Continue to build a foundation of mutual trust
Many couples don't realize how important trust is until they lose it. But there are little things we do every day that either build trust or erode it. Reflect on your actions within the relationship and try to do more things that foster trust.
#7 Don't rely on love alone
Sometimes love just isn't enough. Basically understand the person you have in your arms, the conflicts that arise and how you deal with them, unforeseen situations and the reaction to them... All these are sufficient indicators to determine the character and type of the partner beyond feelings.
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