Breaking up with your partner is never easy and regardless of denial, where there were feelings there will always be feelings of hurt and pain.
Psychologist and relationship expert Estela Escobar gives some tips to make the difficult process of separation easier. The first rule is: Don't meddle in other people's lives.
According to her, when starting a relationship, everyone sees the partner with an idealism that is fundamental to falling in love. When the curtain of this expectation falls, it happens that the separation comes sooner than expected.
The stages of processing a trauma are: Denial Anger Depression
Acceptance
"Each of the partners experiences separation differently, this is very important to accept", explains Escobar.
Disclaimer: It is a natural reaction that does not last more than a month. If you feel stuck at this stage, ask for help.
Anger: Although anger is generally present, it is important not to take harmful steps towards the other person, Estela explains.
Depression: This is one of the most painful stages because it brings many thoughts on the relationship and increased question marks. At this point you have to change the routine and create new spaces for yourself.
Acceptance: This is where healing begins.
Some general tips to help you get through a breakup:
Don't be victimized. That way you will convince yourself more that the world is falling on you.
Take control of your life: Do things that take your mind off the situation.
Associate with people who help you and bring out the best in you.
Seek professional help if you cannot do it yourself.
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