If the mother is narcissistic, she may seem selfless—like someone who always does things for her children and never thinks about herself. She acts this way because she wants attention and needs to be involved in every decision.
If you are an adult, she may be very involved in your life. Maybe you are planning a wedding, but she refuses to come if you invite her father. Or when you talk, she always turns the focus back on herself.
If the mother is narcissistic, she may seem selfless—like someone who always does things for her children and never thinks about herself. She acts this way because she wants attention and needs to be involved in every decision.
If you are an adult, she may be very involved in your life. Maybe you are planning a wedding, but she refuses to come if you invite her father. Or when you talk, she always turns the focus back on herself.
How to identify a narcissist?
- A strong sense of grandeur (high levels of self-esteem, importance, self-confidence, and feeling superior to others)
- Arrogant attitude or behavior< a i=2>- Take advantage of others to get what they want- Believe they are unique or special- Exaggerate achievements and talents- Fantasy for success< /span>- They think they are always right and deserve special treatment- Feeling of envy- Lack of empathy- Excessive need for admiration
Perlin says to ask yourself these questions to figure out if your mother is a narcissist:
1. Can she accept negative reactions?
2. Does she seem overly concerned about how she appears to others?
3. Does she need compliments and positive feedback to feel supported?
4. Does she need others to know that she is overworked, underappreciated, or doing her best as a mother?
5. Do you make it clear that you owe them?
6. Do you think you have to be a certain way or achieve something to have her love and approval?
7. Does she seek attention in a strange or uncomfortable way?
"If you answer yes to many of the questions and her behavior is consistent over time, it could be narcissism," says Perlin.
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