Do you want to know the secret of a lasting love relationship? Start with lessons learned from relationships that didn't last. This is the advice of Dennis Vetrano, a divorce attorney. In his podcast "The DRV Law Show", he talks about some behaviors he has noticed during his 20-year career.
Here are five signs that he/she is not giving you the respect you deserve in a relationship:
#1 He doesn't help you with the housework
In previous generations, the division of labor was clear: fathers made most of the money and mothers took care of the house and took care of the children. Now the roles have changed, so before you end up in the divorce lawyer's office, start doing small things every day to show your desire to help your partner.
#2 He doesn't listen to you
When you are talking about something that excites you or important things, does your partner interrupt you in the middle of the story and talk about something completely different, without even waiting for you to finish? "Certainly cutting people off is disrespectful," says Vetrano, who points out that there's a fine line between disrespect and abuse. "As a divorce lawyer, I know what these things are, from lack of listening to disrespect, and I can clearly see that the couple with these signs is on the road to separation."
#3 He jokes without salt
There are several ways to see what is funny and what is not. Before you speak, think about how you would feel if your partner said something similar. On the other hand, if your spouse says something funny that upsets you, talk things over so that the disrespect returns to normal.
#4 Listens to colleagues more than you
Do you feel heard at the end of the day? Does your husband or wife care about your commitments, how you spent your day, etc.? These are key questions to ask yourself, says Vetrano. The solution to this situation according to the divorce lawyer is not to give colleagues more respect than your life partner.
#5 They don't let you make financial decisions
There is no perfect arrangement for everyone, but if one person controls all the finances, with no input from the other partner, this can lead to resentment and even abuse. “It cannot be a situation where one party puts all the money in the account and the other party does not have access to it. This is not equality, but abuse that can lead to separation," the lawyer emphasizes.
Source: PureWow
