Did you know that parenting has different animal nicknames to give it a certain meaning according to the pattern of behavior with children! Lotus parents are known as the loose and no-holds-barred ones, the tigers are the strict parents characterized by authority. Finally, comes the "elephant parenting" model. According to experts, this parenting style is one of the most attractive and healthy.
But what is "elephant parenting"?
Elephants are highly social, intelligent and empathetic creatures. As such, "elephant parenting" is a gentler, less authoritarian parenting style that provides warmth and empathy.
Parents who approach this model of behavior with children place great importance on helping children develop the ability to articulate emotions by providing encouragement and reassurance. A focus on developing emotionally secure children is at the forefront of this parenting style.
For example, when a child brings home a low grade on an exam, an elephant model parent is more likely to ask how the low grade makes him/her feel, rather than “bottleneck” him/her with questions about the difficulty and outcome of the test. poorly in the exam. According to these parents, intelligence and good emotional awareness promote a number of positive outcomes in children.
If you want to succeed with this parenting model, here are four mistakes you should avoid:
#1 You need to ask yourself why you love this parenting model
Motivimet prindërore për t’u tërhequr drejt një stili të caktuar prindërimi mund të ndikojnë në aftësinë e dikujt për të përshtatur stilin në mënyrë të shëndetshme. Ju duhet të pyesni veten pse dëshironi të bëheni një prind i ashtuquajtur elefant. Përcaktimi i arsyetimit të vërtetë mund t'ju ndihmojë të shmangni sjellje të caktuara.
#2 Doni të bëheni mbrojtës
Kur prindërit shqetësohen shumë për sigurinë dhe rezultatet e fëmijës, ata mund të fillojnë të bëhen mbikqyrës të tepruar duke mbikontrulluar gjithçka. Një prind mund të bëhet tepër mbrojtës sepse do të shmangë rrezikun dhe sfidën, por kështu ata dekurajojnë fuqishëm aktivitetet e rrezikshme dhe të përshtatshme për moshën.
#3 Kufizimi i pavarësisë së fëmijës
Children need to develop the ability to do things independently, whether through chores, playing alone for a few minutes, or eating a meal at the table by themselves. But independence doesn't happen overnight, it's a skill that develops over time and that parents must cultivate early in their children's lives.
#4 Protect the child from difficult emotions
Emotional awareness helps a child improve communication, builds empathy and self-confidence. Psychologists suggest that parents ask open-ended questions to encourage children to develop their feelings. Remember that children repeat the behaviors they see from the adults around them.
Source: Fatherly
