Even the most financially or emotionally stable people have their dilemmas when it comes to the arrival of a child. Questions like: "What if I'm not right to be a parent?; "What if I pass all my insecurities onto them?"; "Do I want children just because I'm pushed by society or do I really want them? ".
All these dilemmas are normal and it is equally healthy to feel nervous before a decision such as bringing a baby into life. What you need to know is that you will probably never feel ready, but the important thing is to feel that you want to bring that new being into being.
To find out if you are ready, these questions will help you:
How well do we know ourselves?
Having children causes concerns for new parents, which are reflected especially after the arrival of the baby. This type of stress puts parents at risk of developing mental health disorders. Therefore, it is good to be aware of your physiological, emotional and mental strengths and weaknesses before you decide to become a parent.
To be clear: You don't have to be perfect. You just need to show a little more curiosity about your personality, strengths, weaknesses, etc. To understand what kind of parenting style would suit you or not.
Notice how you argue, how you cope with emotions or awkward situations, how your relationship is with sleep, with expenses, and analyze how clear your personal limits are.
Are we ready for some chaos in our lives?
If you as parents expect perfectionism, then think again because you will most likely expect this from the child you will bring into life. The bad news is that according to studies, perfectionists are generally unhappy people and more prone to depression, anxiety or other psychological problems, as well as people who demand too much from children and put them in constant stress.
What is our view of life?
It is very natural to feel the need to prepare your child to face the "real world". What we live in is not all about rainbows and pretty colors, so at some point they will have to face its ferocity.
Anyway, back to your point of view and the beliefs you have. If you constantly see it as a dark place, you need to work on yourself first. Try to understand the origin of these negative thoughts and reflect. Once you've done that you're ready to make and protect your growing baby.
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