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It's hard to accept that parents are getting old, we need to talk to them about old age - here's how

, Anabel / Albanian

It's hard to accept that parents are getting old, we need to talk to them

We cannot ignore the fact that our parents are getting old... Conversations about the passing years and the third age, and with them and the many problems that accumulate at the end are not always easy. When it comes to caring for parents, a lady in the house, alternating care with other siblings, more specialized health care when needed, there are many conversations that come at a point in life that need to be discussed openly between child and parent. old people.

As younger people, it is our duty to interact positively with our parents. But there is one point that we must consider: to respect the autonomy of the parents, doing what is best for them. Talking about aging reminds the elderly that perhaps "death is at the door", while parents increasingly want to escape it.

Caring for parents is hard and we need to be prepared. The third age is inevitable, but there are many children who "bury their heads in the sand" when it comes to dividing tasks and responsibilities for the parents so that everything works properly until the end.

It's hard to accept that parents are getting old, we need to talk to them

How to make talking to parents less difficult: talk less, listen more

Diskutimet e hapura dhe të sinqerta me prindërit përpara një periudhe krize zvogëlojnë stresin dhe pasigurinë. Hulumtimet kanë treguar se planifikimi për moshën e tretë redukton konfliktin brenda familjes dhe lehtëson presionin për veprimet e mëtejshme.

Së pari, planifikimi për nevojat e pleqërisë nuk duhet t’i ngjajë një darke të vështirë familjare. Bisedat e shpeshta dhe joformale për tema si emocionet, dëshirat, financat dhe pritshmëritë janë të rëndësishme dhe duhen trajtuar me kuriozitet.

It's hard to accept that parents are getting old, we need to talk to them

Bisedat duhet të jenë seanca dëgjimore, jo-gjykuese. Ku dëshiron të plakesh? Në shtëpi? Në shtëpinë e fëmijës më të madh? Ke nevojë për ndihmë? Do një zonjë në shtëpi që të kujdeset për ty? Pyetje të tilla e bëjnë më të çlirët bisedën mes prindit të moshuar dhe fëmijës.

Advanced care planning doesn't mean it's the end of life, but it's actually a form of empowerment. This allows us to honor and respect the values ??of our parents until the end of their lives.